Discovering your Purpose

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The year is 2000 ish and I can still vividly remember waiting up until about 1:00 am to watch the runway shows on the Style Network, that was always my favorite TV station. I would study the runway, the models, their runway walk and most importantly what they were wearing. I became so intrigued with fashion and how you could tell a story through just clothing, how each garment gave a different emotion, how the clothes would speak for themselves. I always looked at fashion as a form of expression and style as a way of authenticity. I was in my last year of high school & unsure of what I wanted to do with my life but I knew Fashion/Style held a special place in my heart. Fast foreword to 35 & not much has changed….

I don’t know if it’s because we’re right in the last days of this decade or what but I’ve been dwelling on a lot of things lately; one in particular is What is my purpose? Although this can be a pretty loaded question for me it comes down to a few things…What was I placed here to do? How can I be of service to others? What makes my heart smile? My soul full? What do I actually enjoy doing? So many people go through life lost with no direction and wonder why they have no ambition….I think that has a lot to do with not walking in your purpose. When something truly interests you it brings you an abundance of joy, it will fill you up as opposed to draining every ounce of energy you’ve got. That’s what fashion does for me, it makes me happy, it allows for me to creatively express myself…it gives me a sense of fulfillment. This feeling isn’t new to me whatsoever but, lately I’ve been feeling a bit stagnant and that is a feeling I absolutely cannot stand. So it got me to thinking, Yes fashion is something I enjoy…a hobby to an extent but is it my calling? What could I do for the rest of my life and not absolutely dread after a few years?…What could get me out of bed every morning and not bitch & complain while getting dressed? What do I constantly find myself thinking about in my idle time? No surprise to me when the answer was fashion.

I think when something is really for you it never ever goes away, it’s like you can’t ignore your destiny. It may seem like it goes away for a bit but it never truly disappear, it’s always in the background just waiting for the perfect time to pop back up and remind you of what you should be doing…That’s kinda what fashion has been doing to me. I’ve been in my current field for almost 10 years now and still haven’t felt that spark that fashion gives me, that undeniable passion. That’s where a lot of people are in their professional lives, mediocre jobs that pay the bills but drain their souls. So many people are afraid to take a chance on their dreams because their dreams may seem to big or unattainable and end up miserable working 40+ hrs a week with 20 hrs of vacation time a year (that you have to ask permission to use). I CANNOT BE THAT PERSON…it literally makes me cringe just thinking about it. Do you know how much energy it takes to get up and force yourself to go to a job that you barely even like every morning? Whew chile! The ghetto.

The dream is the easy part, the hustle is where you separate the dreamers from the doers. Even while I’m dreaming I’m thinking about fashion 🤦🏽‍♀️…I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been laying in bed at night wide awake curating outfits in my head, LOL! Like it has literally kept me up at night, on some occasions I’ve even gotten out of bed and tried the outfits on….it’s really that bad, LOL. Whenever I’m invited out my first thought is always, What am I going to wear?🤔 an invitation anywhere is just an excuse to dress up in my opinion.

For this look I chose to wear this suit I purchased from Boohoo.com, I have been absolutely obsessed with suits this Fall. I love to see all the street style stars styling theirs in a variety of a ways with sneakers, heels, boots, combat boots, sandals and of course pumps. I chose to pair my suit with a pair of snake print booties from Shein.com to give it a mixed prints type of look, I think it looked pretty cool up against the checkered print in the pants. The pants are ankle length making them the perfect length to show off the booties. I have been on the hunt for a grayish/white fedora and found this gem on SoleSociety.com….in person its more gray than white but what I love most about this fedora is the sturdy brim, LOL. Yes I am kinda like a fedora connoisseur being that they are my favorite hats ever and I’ve collected my fair share over the years. Nothing grinds my gears more than a fedora with a floppy brim, if I wanted a hat with a floppy brim I would’ve purchased a floppy hat..LOL. My favorite part about this outfit is definitely the blazer! It’s double breasted, slightly over sized with small shoulder pads to give it a little structure and a small buckle to give it some edge. The fit is perfect for me, I am already thinking of re wearing it as a dress with some thigh high boots…not now though, it officially hit Winter a few days ago and I WILL NOT BE CAUGHT IN THE COLD..LOL. On this day it was a solid 30 degrees outside hence the teddy coat being in most of my pics, SMH. That was not apart of the plan but the weather had other plans and well I’m not freezing for no one, not even the perfect shot.

I think we’re all born with gifts/talent(s) that to often get ignored or brushed under the rug, I think it’s so unfortunate when this happens. I don’t want to be that old lady who at 70+ have regrets on not going after that dream. My biggest fear is having that, I wonder what would’ve happen if I just tried? thought wrecking havoc on my brain. Nothing worse then lingering “What if’s” floating around your mind. I don’t know what my future holds but I do know it doesn’t include me just sitting on my dreams. It doesn’t include me wasting my gift, that would be a disgrace. It’s our own job to hone in on those talents and put them to good use, It’s not work if you enjoy doing it. We’ve got a few days left in this decade, figure out what you love and get to it. Your dreams are waiting…

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

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