Defining your personal Style

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Hey guys! Happy New Year, new decade, Black History Month…allllllldat. I think we all can agree that January is ALWAYS the longest, cruelest, most trying month of the year for everyone. I made a mental note to start my new year in February because every January is always a flop lol so I officially started my 2020 on February 1st :). With the start of the year I decided to take a closer look at my wardrobe and kinda dissect what needed to stay and what needed to go, over the years I’ve collected more clothes than I have room for (mentally & physically) LOL. I think before I could successfully begin to get rid of items I no longer have any use for, I needed to actually determine what no longer fits my style? Then it got me to thinking, What is my style? How would I describe my style? I didn’t necessarily draw a blank but I did get a sudden rush of anxiety.

When I think of my own style the first word that comes to mind is moody, my style literally changes depending on my mood, And that changes A LOT people…A LOT LOL. Narrowing down your style can be somewhat of a challenge if it changes depending on the day of the week but I think what can help with that is determining what you wouldn’t wear. While I do dress according to my mood there are somethings that are simply out of my style realm, some styles/trends just don’t do if for me. One trend I’ve been completely in love with are combat boots, they’ve been all over social media and I have been absolutely obsessed. It started with the Prada combat boots which are to die for but with a price tag of around $1,450.00 I knew I had to find an alternative LMAO. Shortly after all the street style stars popped up with the Prada’s on their feet I knew it would be only a matter of time before the dupes started to surface…and I was right. The dupes were everywhere from ASOS to Zara but I snagged mine from a site called Dolls Kill and I am so pleased with them! I’ve always been into edgy style or adding edgy items to an outfit to give it an extra boost, something to take an already popping outfit to the next level. Statement pieces or conversation starters as I like to call them, will always be my go to when styling a basic look. While this look is far from basic I think all the pieces could be a conversation starter on their own but together the outfit stands out even more without being too much.

Style to me is a very personal thing, style is what make you stand out in a crowd. I recently captioned one of my Instagram photos, ‘Fashion is what you buy, style is what you do with it’ and that couldn’t be any more true. There are some people who believe wearing designer items or dressing in head to toe designer is considered style and I cringe every time I see it. Style is going into a thrift store or say a Forever 21 and killing off every designer wearing person in the room with your inexpensive/stylish outfit. Not to say that designer items aren’t stylish because if I had the coins to drop on them Prada boots mama would have them BUT wearing designer doesn’t automatically equal style…in my opinion. It takes true style to take pieces and put them together in such a way that people think you’ve spent a lot when in reality you hardly broke bank. I think this is definitely one if my strong points when it comes to my personal style, this is where I thrive. So the question still stands….how would I describe my personal style?

I’m gonna go with Edgy/chic…most of the time all my looks are pulled together nicely with a touch of edge or some type of unexpected twist. I’ve always been drawn to edgy fashion…Streetstyle is hands down my absolute favorite type of Style, I think the best style is on the street. Not the runways, not the stores, not the boutiques but on the actual street. I think when somebody is unapologetically themselves with their style it shows and there’s really no better place to see this then the streets. One of the best times to catch some dope Streetstyle is NYFW which has begun! The best of the best will be running through the streets of New York in their finest garments trying to have their photograph taken. Speaking of which I definitely have NYFW (September) on my 2020 vision board & I’m hoping that the universe looks out for ya girl (fingers crossed)!! I’m sure the net will be buzzing with the runway shows, backstage access & streetstyle…which is my favorite part.

So I’ll leave you with the same question, how would you describe your style? I think the most important things to keep in mind when answering this question is this: What do you feel most comfortable in? Confident in? Whats the first article(s) of clothing you reach for when it’s time to get dressed? What do you have a lot of in your wardrobe? Are you more of a dress up or dress down type of person? So many factors can determine ones personal style but the most important thing to keep in mind is that it is 100% yours, so always wear what makes you the happiest and most confident! Also bear in mind that trends change constantly so don’t always base your style on a trend, trust me you’ll be all over the place trying to keep up. Trends are cool to play with but having a solid style that is true to you is key, that way you can incorporate a particular trend into your style making it your own. And whenever you grow tired of your current style switch it up, no one said you had to stick to one particular style for the rest of your life. Trust me there was a period in my life when I was a full out punk rocker with the spiked choker to match lmao….yep imagine that but life is to short to wear boring clothes!!

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx Quita

Discovering your Purpose

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The year is 2000 ish and I can still vividly remember waiting up until about 1:00 am to watch the runway shows on the Style Network, that was always my favorite TV station. I would study the runway, the models, their runway walk and most importantly what they were wearing. I became so intrigued with fashion and how you could tell a story through just clothing, how each garment gave a different emotion, how the clothes would speak for themselves. I always looked at fashion as a form of expression and style as a way of authenticity. I was in my last year of high school & unsure of what I wanted to do with my life but I knew Fashion/Style held a special place in my heart. Fast foreword to 35 & not much has changed….

I don’t know if it’s because we’re right in the last days of this decade or what but I’ve been dwelling on a lot of things lately; one in particular is What is my purpose? Although this can be a pretty loaded question for me it comes down to a few things…What was I placed here to do? How can I be of service to others? What makes my heart smile? My soul full? What do I actually enjoy doing? So many people go through life lost with no direction and wonder why they have no ambition….I think that has a lot to do with not walking in your purpose. When something truly interests you it brings you an abundance of joy, it will fill you up as opposed to draining every ounce of energy you’ve got. That’s what fashion does for me, it makes me happy, it allows for me to creatively express myself…it gives me a sense of fulfillment. This feeling isn’t new to me whatsoever but, lately I’ve been feeling a bit stagnant and that is a feeling I absolutely cannot stand. So it got me to thinking, Yes fashion is something I enjoy…a hobby to an extent but is it my calling? What could I do for the rest of my life and not absolutely dread after a few years?…What could get me out of bed every morning and not bitch & complain while getting dressed? What do I constantly find myself thinking about in my idle time? No surprise to me when the answer was fashion.

I think when something is really for you it never ever goes away, it’s like you can’t ignore your destiny. It may seem like it goes away for a bit but it never truly disappear, it’s always in the background just waiting for the perfect time to pop back up and remind you of what you should be doing…That’s kinda what fashion has been doing to me. I’ve been in my current field for almost 10 years now and still haven’t felt that spark that fashion gives me, that undeniable passion. That’s where a lot of people are in their professional lives, mediocre jobs that pay the bills but drain their souls. So many people are afraid to take a chance on their dreams because their dreams may seem to big or unattainable and end up miserable working 40+ hrs a week with 20 hrs of vacation time a year (that you have to ask permission to use). I CANNOT BE THAT PERSON…it literally makes me cringe just thinking about it. Do you know how much energy it takes to get up and force yourself to go to a job that you barely even like every morning? Whew chile! The ghetto.

The dream is the easy part, the hustle is where you separate the dreamers from the doers. Even while I’m dreaming I’m thinking about fashion 🤦🏽‍♀️…I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been laying in bed at night wide awake curating outfits in my head, LOL! Like it has literally kept me up at night, on some occasions I’ve even gotten out of bed and tried the outfits on….it’s really that bad, LOL. Whenever I’m invited out my first thought is always, What am I going to wear?🤔 an invitation anywhere is just an excuse to dress up in my opinion.

For this look I chose to wear this suit I purchased from Boohoo.com, I have been absolutely obsessed with suits this Fall. I love to see all the street style stars styling theirs in a variety of a ways with sneakers, heels, boots, combat boots, sandals and of course pumps. I chose to pair my suit with a pair of snake print booties from Shein.com to give it a mixed prints type of look, I think it looked pretty cool up against the checkered print in the pants. The pants are ankle length making them the perfect length to show off the booties. I have been on the hunt for a grayish/white fedora and found this gem on SoleSociety.com….in person its more gray than white but what I love most about this fedora is the sturdy brim, LOL. Yes I am kinda like a fedora connoisseur being that they are my favorite hats ever and I’ve collected my fair share over the years. Nothing grinds my gears more than a fedora with a floppy brim, if I wanted a hat with a floppy brim I would’ve purchased a floppy hat..LOL. My favorite part about this outfit is definitely the blazer! It’s double breasted, slightly over sized with small shoulder pads to give it a little structure and a small buckle to give it some edge. The fit is perfect for me, I am already thinking of re wearing it as a dress with some thigh high boots…not now though, it officially hit Winter a few days ago and I WILL NOT BE CAUGHT IN THE COLD..LOL. On this day it was a solid 30 degrees outside hence the teddy coat being in most of my pics, SMH. That was not apart of the plan but the weather had other plans and well I’m not freezing for no one, not even the perfect shot.

I think we’re all born with gifts/talent(s) that to often get ignored or brushed under the rug, I think it’s so unfortunate when this happens. I don’t want to be that old lady who at 70+ have regrets on not going after that dream. My biggest fear is having that, I wonder what would’ve happen if I just tried? thought wrecking havoc on my brain. Nothing worse then lingering “What if’s” floating around your mind. I don’t know what my future holds but I do know it doesn’t include me just sitting on my dreams. It doesn’t include me wasting my gift, that would be a disgrace. It’s our own job to hone in on those talents and put them to good use, It’s not work if you enjoy doing it. We’ve got a few days left in this decade, figure out what you love and get to it. Your dreams are waiting…

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

Happy Bloggerversary

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Hey guys! I cannot believe that it has actually been a little over a year since I started my blog, after all the years of putting it off the first year came & went in the blink of an eye. My first post went live on December 11, 2018..I went into it with no real clue about blogging, how it actually worked or if this was something I could even be good at. I started with what I had (my iPhone 7+, a Chromebook & a vision) and just went for it. I knew I had a passion for fashion/style and was pretty good at writing so combining the two was perfect for me.

Over the past year I’ve been trying to figure out what direction I wanted to take my professional life in (I currently work in healthcare) but I always knew I had a strong interest for all things Fashion/Style so, I wanted to start a blog to see if that held my interest. Believe it or not there are people who live off of blogging (sponsorship’s, brand collaborations etc) alone, it has really become a game changer in recent years. Needless to say my interest is stronger now than it has ever been! It’s been my creative outlet this past year and my interest has grown so much since starting this blog. I knew I needed an outlet to help me express my creativity and a space where I could write and share it with whoever was willing to read it…even if that person was just me, LOL. I’ve received such good feedback over the past year which has been especially inspiring during my moments of doubt. Blogging looks so fun and easy on the outside (it is really fun) but it is far from easy. The main thing I think I’ve had trouble with is consistency, I’ll either go weeks/months without a single blog post or back to back posts…there is really no in between. Not really surprising to me being that I am an all in or all the way out kind of human, LOL.

For this particular shoot I had a completely different outfit in mind (which involved a skirt) but decided to go with this sort of monochromatic look instead. It hasn’t officially become Winter yet according to the calendar, but as far as I’m concerned once the temperature goes below 40 degrees It’s definitely winter in my book, LOL. If you’ve been reading my posts you already know I absolutely DESPISE the winter time, more particularly being cold in any capacity. I’ve been a big fan of Faux Fur for some time now and this Nasty Gal coat was love at first sight! I’m giving rich auntie tease in this entire look, it’s such a vibe! I’ve been wanting to do a monochromatic look and although this isn’t entirely all one color it is close enough, LOL. The blazer and pants are both from Pretty Little Thing and how come none of y’all never told me that their clothes were mediocre at best…or maybe that’s just my opinion. On the web sight the pants looked completely different than the paper thin pants I received in the mail, not to mention the fabrics didn’t match AT ALL. I was completely unhappy with the entire purchase smh but decided to make the best of it.

One thing blogging has taught me is that dedication is truly the key ingredient to accomplishing any goal, nothing happens if nothing happens. If you don’t have the passion or the drive than you don’t have the result(s), period or periodt…whichever one you prefer LOL. We live during a time where everyone has some type of side hustle so it’s easy to get caught up in other people’s lives but focusing on their results won’t get you the results you’re trying to get. Keep up with what you have going on even when you feel like nothing is happening, It’ll all pay off in the long run.

The internet can be a really weird place sometimes, your biggest supporters are often times complete strangers…while the people you’ve known nearly your entire life never even mentions your blog. I’ve always thought that was so strange until I realized not everybody will recognize or celebrate your accomplishments and that’s fine, I’m finally starting to get that now. That’s why I’ve always thought it was important to celebrate yourself and your accomplishments, even the small ones; even if you’re the only one cheering. Learn how to be your own cheerleader and motivation, keep going and grinding even if no one is clapping because trust me they see everything you’re doing even when they claim not too.

Nonetheless year one has been super dope and inspiring, I cannot wait to see what I come up with in the next year. As usual my mind is overflowing with ideas…being a creative with this much creative energy is overwhelming LOL. I’ve learned so much already and look forward to learning a shit ton more, I’m especially excited to watch this blog grow and see where it could take me. I talked about this in a post before but I think the hardest part about starting something new is just starting…that really is it. The process/journey is where you learn all the things you’ll need to progress, but if you don’t start you don’t learn shit. You can watch all the YouTube videos, read the blogs, listen to the Podcasts, so on and so forth and still not learn a fraction of the things you’ll learn from just doing it yourself. Those resources are helpful but experience is priceless. So if you’ve ever read any of my posts, sent me a message, left a comment, shared my photo(s) on Instagram or even the ghost readers, I thank you all! Seriously, it means a lot to me :). Year 1 down! So many more to go, stay tuned!

Me at my future house recording an episode of MTV cribs, LMAO! does that show even come on still? I just gave away my age LOL

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita