Why you should stop procrastinating TODAY

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So I’m just gonna start off by saying I am probably one of the biggest procrastinators you’ve ever met, no exaggeration lol. I’m not sure what it is or why I do it so often, but it definitely has to be one of my least favorable traits. Lets take my blog for example; I clearly remember having a conversation on New Years Eve way back in either 2013 or 2014 with my friend about starting a blog, I’d just made my Instagram page and was formally introduced to blogging. Before Instagram I wasn’t really to familiar with blogging, only blog I really read was Necole Kane’s old blog Necolebitchie which was a music/fashion/gossip type of blog, but blogs strictly dedicated to fashion were all but foreign to me.

I literally waited about 5 years before I finally started this blog, FIVE WHOLE YEARS…that is NOT okay. I procrastinated soooooooo much to the point where nobody really wanted to hear nothing else about this blog I was supposed to start years ago. I was overflowing with ideas just letting time get away simply because of procrastination. I made myself believe that the internet didn’t need another fashion blogger which ultimately resulting in me putting it off year after year. I always knew I wanted to start one and I’d done the research and read enough blogs to know the basics on how to start but procrastination and fear won every time. I’d say things like; What if no one reads it? Where do I even start? I am NOT a computer person, how will I design the site? Who’s gonna take my pictures? What if no one reads it?…Again lol. I had every excuse you could think of, all the while just wasting time I could’ve used to at least start the damn thing. Out of everything I’ve done so far I’ve found that starting was the hardest part, I get a little mixed up sometimes with the analytics of the site but the hardest part has been starting….well that and taking my own photos out in public, LOL. I follow a lot of fashion bloggers and I hear people say all the time how in the beginning they struggled with everything from taking photos, gaining an audience to staying consistent, it wasn’t until years and years of trial and error that they finally got the hang of it. I also hear people say often how their blogs didn’t really gain any attention from brands or money for that matter until after being a blogger for several years. I just sit back and think about all the time I’ve wasted and cringe, procrastination will have you out here really missing out on opportunities all because you’re too scared to try. Unfortunately procrastination hasn’t just held me back from starting this blog but it has hindered me in other areas of my life as well. Before you know it days turn to weeks, weeks turn to months and months turn to years and you’ll look up and still haven’t done any of which you set out to do. The craziest part is that 9 times out of 10 you’re 100% capable of doing whatever it is you have your heart set on you but just let procrastination get the best of you.

Aside from procrastination I didn’t want to start from scratch, being at the bottom in a sense was such a turn off to me. I think it had a lot to do with what I was seeing everyday, as I mentioned before I follow a lot of fashion bloggers and I’ve witnessed their growth, growth that looked like it happened overnight. Obviously this isn’t the case but me from the outside looking in it sure did look like it, seeing that made me think of me being a beginner and I was not interested. I wanted to start and get the ball rolling right away and that is definitely not how this works. For some maybe that is the case but for most that simply isn’t it at all. You see people’s success and forget that you don’t know what part of their journey they’re on, maybe they’ve made 100 mistakes before reaching this level, maybe they’ve had their blog for 5+ years…you really never know what someone else’s story is. My favorite stories are the ones who quit their 9-5’s to pursue blogging full time, sounds like an absolute dream to me but it also sounds like a lot of preparation, dedication and hard work. All that to say you have to start somewhere, being a beginner is not a bad thing and with blogging being so common nowadays it’s so much easier to start now then say 5-6 years ago. There are plenty of how to tutorials and cheat sheets you just have to be willing to try.

So let’s get into this look…if you aren’t already aware I am a huge houndstooth fan, it has been a favorite of mine for so many years now. I purchased this sweater last year from Boohoo and was immediately drawn to the colors and fit of the sweater. When I received it in the mail I was in love, the quality is so good not to mention the comfort. I have really sensitive skin and a lot of times fuzzy sweaters irritate my skin so bad to the point where when I take them off my arms and chest are completely red and itchy 😩, thankfully that wasn’t the case with this sweater. The skirt I purchased from Nasty Gal and baybeeee let me tell you how I am obsessed with this here skirt! The color alone is just so perfect, this rich mustard color just screams chic to me. Definitely a color that cane be worn all year round versus maybe a lilac that we usually only see during the Spring. If you’ve been keeping up with my blog you already know my love for silk/satin slip dresses and this is just the skirt version of that 😂, clearly I’m not letting them go. I’ve also been into comfort lately so pairing this skirt with sneakers was a winning combination for me, skirts with sneakers have been the wave lately and I am so into it…my feet haven’t been happier, LOL.

I can’t believe that I am coming up on a year since I launched my blog, although we may not always realize it time really does fly by. I may not had started when I originally planned to but the important part is that I started, I might not understand it now but I’m sure I started when it was supposed to happen. We don’t always get to choose when something will happen we just gotta believe that it will. I cannot believe that we’re in the last 3 months of this decade 🤯, I really don’t understand where the time has gone! 25-35 yrs old has been mind boggling to say the least but this decade owes me nothing, I am so ready for the next 10yrs and to leave procrastinating behind!!

What’s something you’ve been putting off for days, weeks, months, years even? Whatever it is take it from me and do it soon, better yet start right NOW! Whatever was the first thing that came to your mind, yeah that. Don’t let another 10 years go by wishing you would’ve done something differently. You will never be 100% ready for anything in life so your best bet is to just start with what you have and learn as you go. Experience has and always will be the best teacher so what do you really have to loose? Aside from your dream(s)…don’t let fear/procrastination win. I think Nike said it best when they said, JUST DO IT…lol.

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

…..and do it NOW😆

Xx, Quita

Marquita and The City…

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When I saw this t-shirt on Boohoo I knew I had to have it, Sex and The City was like the blueprint for dating; even til this day. We all wanted to be Carrie Bradshaw and raid her closet, she has to be one of the best dressed lead female characters on any given TV series to date, in my opinion. She was always dressed to perfection with a bomb ass girl gang, not to mention her cute New York City brownstone apartment in Manhattan was just so perfect. Between her wardrobe, apartment, job as a writer and amazing friends I was hooked on this show, although a little late to the party (I didn’t really start watching until I was in my early 20’s) once I did I couldn’t stop. It was just so addicting especially being a young woman myself trying to navigate through the dating world…what a time to be alive, LOL. Watching SATC now in my 30’s is like a completely different experience, some of the episodes and topics just hit different when you have a little experience under your belt. If anyone ever asked me which character was I proudly said Carrie with a healthy dose of Samantha. Well I took one of those on-line quizzes that tell you which SATC character you identified with the most and lo & behold the results said Charlotte…*Blank stare* Lol.

I was so sure I had the optimism of Carrie with the sexy wittiness of Samantha but it turns out I’m an idealistic hopeless romantic like Charlotte 🤔, I BEG TO DIFFER. What do these quizzes really know anyway, lol.

Me casually waiting on Mr Big to disappoint me, again 😒

One moment I can totally identify with Charlotte was in the Sex and The City movie when Mr. Big stood Carrie up on their WEDDING DAY….whew chile my blood still boils when I think about that scene. The look Charlotte gave him when he decided to show up afterwards and talk to her in the middle of the street in front of everyone smh, that “NO!” was so intense. Yep I’m that friend, the protector. Speaking of Mr. Big there is just no way anybody can talk about SATC and not mention his name, he was like the guy everyone loved to hate…including Carrie. Their sometimes toxic relationship served as the focal point for all of Carrie’s other relationships, no matter how many men she dated Mr. Big was always her #1….you know the emotionally unavailable guy you can’t seem to get enough of. Ladies, I feel like at one point or another we’ve all experienced a Mr. Big at some point and if you haven’t you will. And if you happen to dodge him altogether congratulations you’re clearly Gods favorite, LOL. I could go into such great detail about this topic alone but I’ll save that for another day. Men, sex, fashion, writing and shoes were all of Carrie’s strong points as she took us along for the ride, through the elite and sometimes crazy dating scene in Manhattan.

When I thought about how I would style this T-shirt I automatically thought, What would Carrie do? I knew if I wanted to channel my inner Carrie Bradshaw I had to glam it up, I knew I had to take a basic T-shirt and make it pop. For this I decided adding accessories would give it the extra push it needed. Headbands have been everywhere and I was happy to jump on the band wagon, chunky headbands were all over the runways during NYFW adorning the models heads. I felt the pearls gave it all the glam it needed and popped against these studded cat eye sunnies. The bag was definitely a great touch with PVC bags clearly having a moment (see what I did there LOL) this one was perfect. Not like the ones we’ve been seeing with the big handle (I have one myself) this one has two chain straps with two pockets in the front and kinda give off a quilted look. When I saw it I immediately knew I would be buying it and with a price tag of around $13 (extra 50% off of sale price) it was a no brainer! It kinda reminds me of a Chanel bag, if Chanel made PVC bags I’d imagine it would look similar to this. I wasn’t a fan of the biker shorts trend until I found a way of wearing them that made sense with my style. These had been hanging in my closet since July just collecting dust, I saw a few streetstyle photos of women wearing them with blazers and bingo! I actually love this trend worn this way, you can easily take a blazer and wear it as a dress, cinch it at the waist with a belt and boom. Stylish but not to trendy, always the vibe.

It’s safe to say Carrie Bradshaw aka Sarah Jessica Parker took fashion to the next level. From her furs, tutu’s, funky headpieces, sexy midriffs, signature name necklace and Manolo Blahnik’s we all could find something to take from here sense of style, And if you couldn’t find anything to like about her wardrobe I’m sure her crazy dating life gave you binge worthy television. I was so intrigued watching her run around New York City being a fierce fashionista all while juggling a hectic dating life, maintaining friendships and being a NYC columnist…the life! I always dreamed of living in NYC and living out my fashion writer dreams, sigh. I vicariously lived through Carrie.

Are you a Sex and The City fan? Which character is your favorite? I think it’s clear Carrie is mine but according to some online quiz I’m more of a Charlotte 🙄, lol. I think SATC will be one of those iconic TV shows we’ll be talking about for many more years, it’s just left such a huge impact. I know it’s one of my favorites for sure! Life hack: Just stay away from Mr Big…if you can help it 😂.

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Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

Bag: Forever 21

Blazer: NastyGal

Sunnies, T-shirt, biker shorts & shoes: Boohoo

Oh Fall…

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When the mornings are cooler, the days become shorter, neutrals are everywhere, the leaves start changing colors and everything is pumpkin spiced it can only mean one thing, Fall has arrived! I don’t know about you guys but the fashionista in me is doing a dance for joy right now. I remember way back in my twenties…(wow seems so long ago lol) when Summer was EVERYTHING to me, but over recent years that has definitely took a turn. Back when I preferred short skirts, super high heels and everything to be skin tight…now I want long grandma skirts, loosely fitted clothing and a nice bootie with a decent heel. I will definitely still wear a 6 inch heel BUT there has to be a good reason for doing so, or an occasion where there will be plenty of sitting room, LOL. Fall has always been the season for Fashion, with New York Fashion Week starting of the month of September I don’t see that changing anytime soon. I haven’t really done much shopping so far and the little bit I did do were all blazers and suits, for some reason I can’t seem to get into much else. I’m sure no one is surprised to see me in yet another slip dress lol, I actually purchased this one back in July and knew the moment I received it I’d be wearing it in the Fall; as opposed to Summer. As I mentioned before that’s the beauty of these they’re so versatile and can easily be layered to achieve whatever look you’re aiming for. This blazer in particular is probably my favorite of all the ones I own; the print, the fit, the pockets (I couldn’t seem to keep my hands out of them in these photos), the colors, the quality, it’s really just an all around good blazer. When I think of Fall, specifically Fall fashion, I automatically think of blazers lol, although they can be worn all year round Fall is when they shine the most…in my opinion. They’ve been on every ones Fall Must Haves list and for good reason too. Since Fall is the official season for layering I think blazers are the perfect layering item. They can be worn alone, with t-shirts, dressy blouses, button ups, chunky knit sweaters, dresses, underneath coats and still give off a chic pulled together look. I personally think everyone should own at least 3 different blazers; a black one, a neutral colored one & one with some kind of print like the one I’m wearing. These booties have been in my closet for years now but I can’t really remember where I purchased them from. I do know it’s between Just Fab or Shoe Dazzle, do any of you guys still have a subscription with them? From what I can remember their shoes were decent and these are at least 4 yrs old, they’re pretty good quality and have held up over the years. The heel is kinda chunky and not to high making them super comfortable and easy to walk in. With cowboy style boots making a comeback this kinda reminded me of them, or maybe this is about as close as I’ll get to wearing cowboy boots again, lol. I remember back when I did have a pair and they were cool then but now I don’t see myself revisiting that trend. But whatever floats your boat, style is all about your own personal flavor.

I rant and rave about Fall all Summer long then never seem to be quite ready once Fall arrives 😂, it’s like I’m ready but I’m not ready, ready, if that makes any sense. It goes from being 90+ degrees outside to 60 degrees with little to no warning lol, while I welcome the drop with open arms I’m always a little confused when Fall first begins. I’ll start the day off wearing a sweater, blazer, hat, scarf and light jacket then be sweating by noon lol. I guess that’s the beauty of layering, having the option of removing some clothes so you don’t burn up. Once the temperatures drop and stay there is when I’m most comfortable, until then my mind be all over the place.

I’m most excited for wearing real clothes this Fall LOL, Hot Girl Summer was cute but Bad Bish Fall has arrived and we are not taking things lightly. What are you most excited for this Fall? Pumpkin spiced lattes? (Unfortunately my stomach won’t allow me to indulge in them anymore) Halloween? Cool cozy nights? Y’all ready for cuffing season, or nah? LOL! Is Fall your favorite season like mine? Let me know down below. Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita