Defining your personal Style


Hey guys! Happy New Year, new decade, Black History Month…allllllldat. I think we all can agree that January is ALWAYS the longest, cruelest, most trying month of the year for everyone. I made a mental note to start my new year in February because every January is always a flop lol so I officially started my 2020 on February 1st :). With the start of the year I decided to take a closer look at my wardrobe and kinda dissect what needed to stay and what needed to go, over the years I’ve collected more clothes than I have room for (mentally & physically) LOL. I think before I could successfully begin to get rid of items I no longer have any use for, I needed to actually determine what no longer fits my style? Then it got me to thinking, What is my style? How would I describe my style? I didn’t necessarily draw a blank but I did get a sudden rush of anxiety.

When I think of my own style the first word that comes to mind is moody, my style literally changes depending on my mood, And that changes A LOT people…A LOT LOL. Narrowing down your style can be somewhat of a challenge if it changes depending on the day of the week but I think what can help with that is determining what you wouldn’t wear. While I do dress according to my mood there are somethings that are simply out of my style realm, some styles/trends just don’t do if for me. One trend I’ve been completely in love with are combat boots, they’ve been all over social media and I have been absolutely obsessed. It started with the Prada combat boots which are to die for but with a price tag of around $1,450.00 I knew I had to find an alternative LMAO. Shortly after all the street style stars popped up with the Prada’s on their feet I knew it would be only a matter of time before the dupes started to surface…and I was right. The dupes were everywhere from ASOS to Zara but I snagged mine from a site called Dolls Kill and I am so pleased with them! I’ve always been into edgy style or adding edgy items to an outfit to give it an extra boost, something to take an already popping outfit to the next level. Statement pieces or conversation starters as I like to call them, will always be my go to when styling a basic look. While this look is far from basic I think all the pieces could be a conversation starter on their own but together the outfit stands out even more without being too much.

Style to me is a very personal thing, style is what make you stand out in a crowd. I recently captioned one of my Instagram photos, ‘Fashion is what you buy, style is what you do with it’ and that couldn’t be any more true. There are some people who believe wearing designer items or dressing in head to toe designer is considered style and I cringe every time I see it. Style is going into a thrift store or say a Forever 21 and killing off every designer wearing person in the room with your inexpensive/stylish outfit. Not to say that designer items aren’t stylish because if I had the coins to drop on them Prada boots mama would have them BUT wearing designer doesn’t automatically equal style…in my opinion. It takes true style to take pieces and put them together in such a way that people think you’ve spent a lot when in reality you hardly broke bank. I think this is definitely one if my strong points when it comes to my personal style, this is where I thrive. So the question still stands….how would I describe my personal style?

I’m gonna go with Edgy/chic…most of the time all my looks are pulled together nicely with a touch of edge or some type of unexpected twist. I’ve always been drawn to edgy fashion…Streetstyle is hands down my absolute favorite type of Style, I think the best style is on the street. Not the runways, not the stores, not the boutiques but on the actual street. I think when somebody is unapologetically themselves with their style it shows and there’s really no better place to see this then the streets. One of the best times to catch some dope Streetstyle is NYFW which has begun! The best of the best will be running through the streets of New York in their finest garments trying to have their photograph taken. Speaking of which I definitely have NYFW (September) on my 2020 vision board & I’m hoping that the universe looks out for ya girl (fingers crossed)!! I’m sure the net will be buzzing with the runway shows, backstage access & streetstyle…which is my favorite part.

So I’ll leave you with the same question, how would you describe your style? I think the most important things to keep in mind when answering this question is this: What do you feel most comfortable in? Confident in? Whats the first article(s) of clothing you reach for when it’s time to get dressed? What do you have a lot of in your wardrobe? Are you more of a dress up or dress down type of person? So many factors can determine ones personal style but the most important thing to keep in mind is that it is 100% yours, so always wear what makes you the happiest and most confident! Also bear in mind that trends change constantly so don’t always base your style on a trend, trust me you’ll be all over the place trying to keep up. Trends are cool to play with but having a solid style that is true to you is key, that way you can incorporate a particular trend into your style making it your own. And whenever you grow tired of your current style switch it up, no one said you had to stick to one particular style for the rest of your life. Trust me there was a period in my life when I was a full out punk rocker with the spiked choker to match lmao….yep imagine that but life is to short to wear boring clothes!!

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx Quita

What 30+ days of no social media has taught me


Over recent years I’ve witnessed social media become an overnight phenomenon (Instagram in particular)…I still remember when I first made my Instagram page, back when I was Msblondie84 🤦🏽‍♀️ lol. I had been hearing about the ever so growing app from my peers but didn’t really start my page until Instagram was about two years old, since then I’ve had my page consistently with no breaks. Just back to back years of uploading, scrolling, watching 👀, editing and tagging my friends in meme’s lol. This of course was when Instagram was a bit simpler…way before the weird algorithm, Instastories, tags, features and thousands & thousands of overused hashtags. Instagram is by far my favorite and only social media account, however, it has become so over saturated in recent years it was starting to drain me. I knew that break I had been avoiding for months was definitely about to happen. I had grown tired of looking at fake perfection, people lying all day long, drama/gossip and some people in particular.

I was over it, temporarily, I needed to detach and recharge. I knew that I didn’t want to get rid of my page completely so I opted for the “disable” option, where my page disappeared to everyone until I logged back in and reactivated it. My initial time frame was 30 days but after about two weeks I knew 30 days wasn’t enough, 30 days easily turned into almost two months. For someone like me who checks Instagram religiously that was a long time, it may not sound like it to some but for me it was. I think it’s important to use social media in good and inspiring ways as opposed to letting it use you and cloud your vision. It’s so easy to get caught up in the hype of what other people are doing and other peoples lives, inevitably you start to lose focus on your own life and in worse cases start to compare yourself ( and life) to others. In one way or another I feel like we’ve all been there and it is a very unhealthy place to be. You have no idea what goes on behind a perfectly edited photo and an asethically pleasing Instagram feed. Nor do you know what people have done to get the lifestyle they have and what they’re doing to maintain it. None of this goes into account when you’re scrolling through Instagram, you see someone’s “perfect” life and immediately start to compare. Believe me when I tell you, we ALL have shitty days and most people aren’t sharing that part of their lives.

By no means am I against social media whatsoever, however, I do believe you should be mindful of your usage. There’s a feature on Instagram that monitors your usage/time, I was shook when I saw how much time I was actually spending on there. During my break I was able to finish two books I had been trying to finish for weeks. I’m a big reader and read often but I had been neglecting it and reaching for my phone instead of my books. Awful, I know… but it felt good to clear my mind and fill it with useful information instead of social media. I also was on time for once in my life lol instead of recording myself in the mirror making Instastories when i say I’m ”ready” I was actually ready lol. (I know my ladies can relate) I even got some sleep at night, instead of scrolling for an 1 hr or so before bed I actually went to bed. Most importantly I was able to enjoy myself and live in the moment, there’s so many times where we’re out and not actually enjoying the moment. Instead, we’re consumed with our phones and taking pictures and videos of everything. I actually went out and didn’t take boomerangs of me and my friends making a toast with our glasses lmao ladies I know y’all do this too!

On a lighter note I did miss uploading photos to promote my blog, I think one of the biggest advantages of Instagram is using it as a promotional tool. We’re in the era of entrepreneurs, bloggers and business boomers…using Instagram is like free advertising. Another bonus to Instagram is networking, you’re able to make a lot of connections without actually leaving your couch lol (a super plus for me). Believe it or not some people have made genuine friendships through Instagram. There’s so many advantages to social media when used correctly and efficiently. While I was on “break” I was still serving looks, that will never stop lol. For this look I chose this Hounds tooth dress I purchased from Boohoo back in the Fall, if you know me you know my obsession with Hounds tooth. Strappy heels are so chic and sexy bringing that extra dose of sass to any outfit. Mine are from Boohoo as well, although not the most comfortable shoe to walk in they’re totally worth it. Just be sure to wear them when you’re certain you’ll be sitting down for the majority of the night …Thank me later lol.

Have any of you ever taken a break from social media? If so, for how long? If you haven’t I encourage you to give it a try, it’s so beneficial. I promise you’ll feel the positive effects of disconnecting almost immediately. I’m already looking forward to my next break! Btw, are you following me on Instagram 👀, if not you definitely should! @Storiesxstyle…Thanks for stopping by and as always, whatever you do, do it with style.

Xx, Quita