New Normalcy?…..

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I’m sure I don’t have to state the obvious in saying that the world has been under some intense stress over that past few weeks, while everyone was tuning in to the news/social media keeping up with current events we all were still very optimistic. I think everyone reached their peak when the nation went into a mandatory quarantine requiring everyone to stay at home. Now I am an introvert so staying at home is not punishment to me, however, it has some of you guys going ape shit crazy LOL….While staying indoors is kinda my thing I have to admit that being told to stay inside is different, closing everything down has been weird, all these restrictions has had me in a whirlwind all week. It’s one thing to stay inside voluntarily but staying indoors because it’s not necessarily safe to be outside is wild af. I literally feel like we’re living right in the middle of a movie right now.

I work in healthcare, which by the way has been TRYING AS HELL this week, so the quarantine doesn’t really apply to me all that much. I am still required to be at work by 5 am sharp and stay my full shift, thankfully I only work 3 days a week so I guess it’s not all that bad. Being an “Essential” employee during a worldwide pandemic has really been eye opening, in all my years of working in healthcare I’ve never been required to be at work regardless of the state of the nation, aside from snow storms, this is new. Even during inclement weather I still have been given a pass to stay home because 98% of the patients won’t even show up :-/….Not so much with COVID-19 aka Coronavirus. I’m happy to be of service at such a fragile time but it has had its moments of pure stress.

I don’t think this time spent inside have to be a negative thing, aside from the obvious benefits of being safe, I believe we all could benefit from sitting still. As adults we’re always on the go, busy with work, life, being a spouse, a parent or simply adulting….sometimes it could feel impossible to find a moment of stillness. There’s always something that demands our attention making it difficult to sit still and just be in the moment. I too can relate to this 100%, it sometimes feel like downtime will never come :-/. Use this time to do all the things you have been putting off simply because you haven’t had the time, below I’ve listed 5 things you can do to use this time wisely.

  • Self Care…this could mean different things to different people but whatever makes you feel good is self care.
  • Read a book. I’ll admit I’ve been slacking BIG TIME on my book reading but I plan on getting back into it ASAP
  • Finish or Start that thing you’ve been postponing for God knows how long.
  • Find a new hobby…for me I’ve always wanted to get into painting. Find something you’ve been wanting to try and get on it.
  • Write/journal…writing has been my own kind of therapy for as long as I can remember.

On a lighter note the first day of Spring came and went without a peep LOL, everybody has been so wrapped up in the Coronavirus that nobody hardly noticed. I’m not really a Spring person but I do look forward to wearing less layers and lighter fabrics. I had a specific fit and shoot all planned out for my “First Day of Spring” post but this virus had other plans for all of us. These were taken about two weeks ago when life was a lot less hectic and chaotic. I froze my entire ass off during this whole shoot but at least I was allowed to be outside LOL. It’s crazy how we take the smallest things for granted not even realizing that they are actual privileges. I don’t think there’s been an official date for the quarantine lift but I do hope it’s sometime soon, while I do enjoy being home all I want right now is to get all cute and go out! I think it has more to do with the fact that I can’t because if I could my ass would be right in the house…LOL per usual.

What have you guys been doing to stay busy during the quarantine? Have you been told to work from home or are you an essential employee like me? :-/ I’m not even gonna lie I’ve been eating, drinking wine & sleeping all damn day…nothing outside of my usual activity LOL. But in all seriousness I hope you guys are following the proper protocol and keeping yourself & loved ones safe, I know this has probably been a lot to process but I have hope that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. I find that seeing all of the news about the virus 24/7 is mentally exhausting, especially for an empath like myself. If you need to cut off the news and log out of social media for a day or so DO THAT….your mental will thank you. In the meantime we all need to focus on staying safe and not going crazy from being on lockdown, if I see another challenge or Tik tok video on Instagram I’m going to actually go nuts LOL. Stay safe & sound guys!!

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

And wash your damn hands!!

Xx, Quita

Skinny Black Girl In America

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So, let’s talk….

Happy Women’s History Month! I thought I’d start this month off in particular with a subject very near and dear to me, something I’ve been dealing with for most of my life. I’m sure it’s not hard to see that I am a petite woman, or as most would say “Skinny”. Growing up and all throughout school this was never something that caused me any trouble or was even a concern, I was a perfectly healthy child/teenager who happened to be on the “Skinny” side. It wasn’t until I was around 15 maybe 16 when I started to notice that all of my friends were growing into these bodies that had hips, breast and ass while my body on the other hand still looked the same way it did in the 9th grade. Although it still hadn’t become an issue at that point it was something I did take notice of. As time went on and I entered early adulthood that’s when the insecurities started to come into play, that’s when the insensitivity from others started to happen, that’s when I began to allow my environment to affect me.

I would hear all types of comments and rude remarks regarding my weight, things that I would unintentionally internalize. Being a smaller woman comes with it’s own set of problems BUT being a skinny black woman in the black community is a whole other fight. In a culture where big butts, breast & hips are placed on a pedestal I was trying to find where I fit in, I was trying to feel confident in my own body. I think people forget that body shaming doesn’t just mean you’re calling someone fat or overweight, body shaming is when you make a comment on someone’s weight, period. Whether it be a comment about someone being fat or skinny NEITHER IS OKAY and both can leave the same effect on someone. If it’s not, ‘Girl, do you even eat?” it’s “You’re soooooo tiny, how do you manage to stay so thin??” and while some people don’t mean much harm others are very intentional with their remarks. Rule of thumb, never comment on someone’s weight…it’s insensitive and it’s rude.

I tried EVERYTHING to gain weight and I mean everything. I watched countless Youtube videos on “How to gain weight fast” and while they did give a plethora of options none of them really worked for me. Not to mention the shit became expensive as hell, but I was so determined to gain some pounds (Ass & hips…judge ya mother) that the money didn’t even bother me. I tried it all from protein smoothies, protein shakes, increasing my caloric intake, Maca root, working out (chile I don’t know how y’all do that workout shit) and the infamous Apetamin. I would not recommend that Apetamin stuff to NO ONE, the side effects were just too much to deal with. I have seen women get great results with it but I refuse to drink that stuff again…but to each its own. I was over doing it trying to become something I simply am not and it wasn’t worth it. When it all balls down to it the most important thing you can do is love yourself no matter how big or small you are, no one is perfect and truth be told no one is ever satisfied. I know women who want to be smaller and women who want to be bigger. Women who want to add a little bit here and take a little bit away there. We’re either stuffing our faces trying to pile on calories or trying multiple diets trying to shed some pounds….there’s always something.

Love yourself just the way you’re, you’re beautiful and if you ever need a reminder I’m here to do just that! I still have my days BUT I snap out of that shit fast, I don’t dwell on it. I was made just the way I am supposed to be and so were you. I’ll leave you with this piece from 2016 I wrote on my tumblr (who else had a tumblr?) tumblr was and still is my favorite Social Media account….

It is never okay to ridicule or make insensitive comments about somebody’s body image. If I had a dollar for every time someone has made comments such as: “wow, do you eat?”, “you’re soooooo skinny”, “where are you gonna put all that food?”, “you should eat more”…..etc I’d literally have enough money to pay off my student loans. Understand that you’re never in a position to make comments on something you know nothing about. It is no different than when someone makes a fat joke and everybody laughs, the shit hurts. I have been living with myself long enough to know that I am a petite woman, I do not need you to remind me of this every chance you get. Just because somebody is different from you doesn’t make them unhealthy and more importantly it doesn’t put you in a position to judge. With age came a thicker skin when it comes to this, however I truly do hate when complete fucking strangers take it upon themselves to voice their opinions. Even after I give them the look of death they still will proceed to ask even more insulting questions. In a generation where fat ass’s, big breast and wide hips are glorified, especially in the black community, it is often frowned upon to be on the skinny side. Luckily, I could give a shit less but when you insult me oh then we will have a problem. Just like it’s not okay to say, “He/she is big as a house” it also isn’t okay to say, “He/she looks like a skeleton”. People need to mind their own business and grow the fuck up, period. Worry about your own grass and why it isn’t growing instead of worrying about why somebody look the way they do. Your rude comments could be the last straw for somebody before they snap on you or even themselves. So next time you decide to take it upon yourself to say something in reference to someone’s body weight do me a favor….don’t.

People will have opinions but you know what they say about those 😉. Don’t let anyone convince you that there is something wrong with you because there isn’t, there’s something wrong with them for believing they can tell you what to do with YOUR body! Healthy lifestyle changes are 100% okay but don’t let society convince you that there is something wrong with you, do it because you want to not because you feel like you have too.

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style…..and confidence!

Signed, A skinny black girl who eats more than an elephant :).

Xx, Quita

So I’ve got a confession, I’ve been cheating….

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If you remember back to last summer when I made a post titled ‘Casually Chic Summer‘ where I wore a slip dress with sneakers, I mentioned in that post how I wanted to get into wearing sneakers; how I’ve had my eye on a couple pairs. Of them these have been my favorite go to sneaker of all time, I have NEVER been a sneaker girl let alone a Jordan wearer but the 1’s have always stood out to me. I think what I like most about them is the sleekness of them, how they can easily be dressed up or down and works either way. The variation of colors is probably my favorite thing about them, over the years they have came in so many different colors from the classic red, white & black ones to the ones I have on, they literally have a ton of color combinations. I knew if was going to spend my coins on a pair of sneakers they had to be perfect, they had to be versatile, they had to be the Jordan 1’s.

I purchased my first pair about three years ago and didn’t purchase another until recently, although I liked the shoe I felt awkward in them LOL only because I am so used to wearing heels that I felt weird in sneakers. In a sense I felt as if I were cheating on my heels with sneakers, hence the title of this post LMAO. I tried to wear them maybe 3 times before I put them back in the box never to be seen again, that is until recently when I started to see them everywhere and remembered the pair I had shoved in the back of my closet. I wasn’t really in love with those so like any shopaholic would do I went online and purchased two new pairs in different colors to start my collection LOL. I was drawn to the boldness of the blue in these and how they could go with a lot of things I own, I’m not really into colors but if I do wear color its something dark for sure!

I don’t know whats gotten into me lately (probably the knees/ankles of a 35 yr old who’s been wearing heels since middle school) but all I’ve been wanting to wear lately is practical shoes, shoes that don’t make my feet hurt and ankles swell. I’ve always loved the whole Sporty Chic style that some girls have down to a science. That effortless, cool girl, sporty look with the right amount of style and a lot of comfort. That’s the direction I was going in with this look. Army fatigue have been having a moment for the last couple of years now and I don’t see that changing anytime soon. For this look I went with the grey & black fatigue pants as opposed to the green ones everybody own (myself included). I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t throw a little glam into the mix, the faux fur I’ve had for awhile now & will continue to wear it until its worn out. Faux fur has got to be my favorite style coat to wear during the winter months, there was a time when I hated coats for the simple fact that they were big and bulky and hid my outfit LOL….however, I’ve had a change of heart. Now I’ll buy the most elaborate coat in the store just to make a subtle statement, the coat is like the appetizer while the outfit is the main course LMAO!

While I’ll always be a heels girl at heart I think its cool to switch things up from time to time, incorporating sneakers into my wardrobe was definitely a much needed change. I’ve noticed a lot of Fashion bloggers and street style stars have wearing sneakers with everything from skirts and jeans to ball gowns and suits, especially during NYFW, which I 100% stan! I cannot imagine running around for hours on end from show to show in 6 inch heels, that literally sounds like torture. Now don’t go and get all excited because this doesn’t cancel out heels all together for me, absolutely fucking not lol. There’s nothing sexier than a nice pair of pumps or thigh high boots (which both happen to be my favorite type of heel) BUT every now and again wearing a pair of sneakers is definitely clutch. I don’t even know who I am right now lol I think my main issue with wearing them often is my actual style, I’m the girl who’s 9 times out of 10 gonna over dress by nature…it’s really just who I am. Trying to make a sneaker work with a chic/glam outfit can sometimes become a little tricky but I’m up for the challenge. Do you have a go to comfortable shoe? Sneaker? I think I’ve found mine….*Goes and buy them in every color because that’s just who I am* LOL

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

Defining your personal Style

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Hey guys! Happy New Year, new decade, Black History Month…allllllldat. I think we all can agree that January is ALWAYS the longest, cruelest, most trying month of the year for everyone. I made a mental note to start my new year in February because every January is always a flop lol so I officially started my 2020 on February 1st :). With the start of the year I decided to take a closer look at my wardrobe and kinda dissect what needed to stay and what needed to go, over the years I’ve collected more clothes than I have room for (mentally & physically) LOL. I think before I could successfully begin to get rid of items I no longer have any use for, I needed to actually determine what no longer fits my style? Then it got me to thinking, What is my style? How would I describe my style? I didn’t necessarily draw a blank but I did get a sudden rush of anxiety.

When I think of my own style the first word that comes to mind is moody, my style literally changes depending on my mood, And that changes A LOT people…A LOT LOL. Narrowing down your style can be somewhat of a challenge if it changes depending on the day of the week but I think what can help with that is determining what you wouldn’t wear. While I do dress according to my mood there are somethings that are simply out of my style realm, some styles/trends just don’t do if for me. One trend I’ve been completely in love with are combat boots, they’ve been all over social media and I have been absolutely obsessed. It started with the Prada combat boots which are to die for but with a price tag of around $1,450.00 I knew I had to find an alternative LMAO. Shortly after all the street style stars popped up with the Prada’s on their feet I knew it would be only a matter of time before the dupes started to surface…and I was right. The dupes were everywhere from ASOS to Zara but I snagged mine from a site called Dolls Kill and I am so pleased with them! I’ve always been into edgy style or adding edgy items to an outfit to give it an extra boost, something to take an already popping outfit to the next level. Statement pieces or conversation starters as I like to call them, will always be my go to when styling a basic look. While this look is far from basic I think all the pieces could be a conversation starter on their own but together the outfit stands out even more without being too much.

Style to me is a very personal thing, style is what make you stand out in a crowd. I recently captioned one of my Instagram photos, ‘Fashion is what you buy, style is what you do with it’ and that couldn’t be any more true. There are some people who believe wearing designer items or dressing in head to toe designer is considered style and I cringe every time I see it. Style is going into a thrift store or say a Forever 21 and killing off every designer wearing person in the room with your inexpensive/stylish outfit. Not to say that designer items aren’t stylish because if I had the coins to drop on them Prada boots mama would have them BUT wearing designer doesn’t automatically equal style…in my opinion. It takes true style to take pieces and put them together in such a way that people think you’ve spent a lot when in reality you hardly broke bank. I think this is definitely one if my strong points when it comes to my personal style, this is where I thrive. So the question still stands….how would I describe my personal style?

I’m gonna go with Edgy/chic…most of the time all my looks are pulled together nicely with a touch of edge or some type of unexpected twist. I’ve always been drawn to edgy fashion…Streetstyle is hands down my absolute favorite type of Style, I think the best style is on the street. Not the runways, not the stores, not the boutiques but on the actual street. I think when somebody is unapologetically themselves with their style it shows and there’s really no better place to see this then the streets. One of the best times to catch some dope Streetstyle is NYFW which has begun! The best of the best will be running through the streets of New York in their finest garments trying to have their photograph taken. Speaking of which I definitely have NYFW (September) on my 2020 vision board & I’m hoping that the universe looks out for ya girl (fingers crossed)!! I’m sure the net will be buzzing with the runway shows, backstage access & streetstyle…which is my favorite part.

So I’ll leave you with the same question, how would you describe your style? I think the most important things to keep in mind when answering this question is this: What do you feel most comfortable in? Confident in? Whats the first article(s) of clothing you reach for when it’s time to get dressed? What do you have a lot of in your wardrobe? Are you more of a dress up or dress down type of person? So many factors can determine ones personal style but the most important thing to keep in mind is that it is 100% yours, so always wear what makes you the happiest and most confident! Also bear in mind that trends change constantly so don’t always base your style on a trend, trust me you’ll be all over the place trying to keep up. Trends are cool to play with but having a solid style that is true to you is key, that way you can incorporate a particular trend into your style making it your own. And whenever you grow tired of your current style switch it up, no one said you had to stick to one particular style for the rest of your life. Trust me there was a period in my life when I was a full out punk rocker with the spiked choker to match lmao….yep imagine that but life is to short to wear boring clothes!!

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx Quita

Discovering your Purpose

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The year is 2000 ish and I can still vividly remember waiting up until about 1:00 am to watch the runway shows on the Style Network, that was always my favorite TV station. I would study the runway, the models, their runway walk and most importantly what they were wearing. I became so intrigued with fashion and how you could tell a story through just clothing, how each garment gave a different emotion, how the clothes would speak for themselves. I always looked at fashion as a form of expression and style as a way of authenticity. I was in my last year of high school & unsure of what I wanted to do with my life but I knew Fashion/Style held a special place in my heart. Fast foreword to 35 & not much has changed….

I don’t know if it’s because we’re right in the last days of this decade or what but I’ve been dwelling on a lot of things lately; one in particular is What is my purpose? Although this can be a pretty loaded question for me it comes down to a few things…What was I placed here to do? How can I be of service to others? What makes my heart smile? My soul full? What do I actually enjoy doing? So many people go through life lost with no direction and wonder why they have no ambition….I think that has a lot to do with not walking in your purpose. When something truly interests you it brings you an abundance of joy, it will fill you up as opposed to draining every ounce of energy you’ve got. That’s what fashion does for me, it makes me happy, it allows for me to creatively express myself…it gives me a sense of fulfillment. This feeling isn’t new to me whatsoever but, lately I’ve been feeling a bit stagnant and that is a feeling I absolutely cannot stand. So it got me to thinking, Yes fashion is something I enjoy…a hobby to an extent but is it my calling? What could I do for the rest of my life and not absolutely dread after a few years?…What could get me out of bed every morning and not bitch & complain while getting dressed? What do I constantly find myself thinking about in my idle time? No surprise to me when the answer was fashion.

I think when something is really for you it never ever goes away, it’s like you can’t ignore your destiny. It may seem like it goes away for a bit but it never truly disappear, it’s always in the background just waiting for the perfect time to pop back up and remind you of what you should be doing…That’s kinda what fashion has been doing to me. I’ve been in my current field for almost 10 years now and still haven’t felt that spark that fashion gives me, that undeniable passion. That’s where a lot of people are in their professional lives, mediocre jobs that pay the bills but drain their souls. So many people are afraid to take a chance on their dreams because their dreams may seem to big or unattainable and end up miserable working 40+ hrs a week with 20 hrs of vacation time a year (that you have to ask permission to use). I CANNOT BE THAT PERSON…it literally makes me cringe just thinking about it. Do you know how much energy it takes to get up and force yourself to go to a job that you barely even like every morning? Whew chile! The ghetto.

The dream is the easy part, the hustle is where you separate the dreamers from the doers. Even while I’m dreaming I’m thinking about fashion 🤦🏽‍♀️…I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been laying in bed at night wide awake curating outfits in my head, LOL! Like it has literally kept me up at night, on some occasions I’ve even gotten out of bed and tried the outfits on….it’s really that bad, LOL. Whenever I’m invited out my first thought is always, What am I going to wear?🤔 an invitation anywhere is just an excuse to dress up in my opinion.

For this look I chose to wear this suit I purchased from Boohoo.com, I have been absolutely obsessed with suits this Fall. I love to see all the street style stars styling theirs in a variety of a ways with sneakers, heels, boots, combat boots, sandals and of course pumps. I chose to pair my suit with a pair of snake print booties from Shein.com to give it a mixed prints type of look, I think it looked pretty cool up against the checkered print in the pants. The pants are ankle length making them the perfect length to show off the booties. I have been on the hunt for a grayish/white fedora and found this gem on SoleSociety.com….in person its more gray than white but what I love most about this fedora is the sturdy brim, LOL. Yes I am kinda like a fedora connoisseur being that they are my favorite hats ever and I’ve collected my fair share over the years. Nothing grinds my gears more than a fedora with a floppy brim, if I wanted a hat with a floppy brim I would’ve purchased a floppy hat..LOL. My favorite part about this outfit is definitely the blazer! It’s double breasted, slightly over sized with small shoulder pads to give it a little structure and a small buckle to give it some edge. The fit is perfect for me, I am already thinking of re wearing it as a dress with some thigh high boots…not now though, it officially hit Winter a few days ago and I WILL NOT BE CAUGHT IN THE COLD..LOL. On this day it was a solid 30 degrees outside hence the teddy coat being in most of my pics, SMH. That was not apart of the plan but the weather had other plans and well I’m not freezing for no one, not even the perfect shot.

I think we’re all born with gifts/talent(s) that to often get ignored or brushed under the rug, I think it’s so unfortunate when this happens. I don’t want to be that old lady who at 70+ have regrets on not going after that dream. My biggest fear is having that, I wonder what would’ve happen if I just tried? thought wrecking havoc on my brain. Nothing worse then lingering “What if’s” floating around your mind. I don’t know what my future holds but I do know it doesn’t include me just sitting on my dreams. It doesn’t include me wasting my gift, that would be a disgrace. It’s our own job to hone in on those talents and put them to good use, It’s not work if you enjoy doing it. We’ve got a few days left in this decade, figure out what you love and get to it. Your dreams are waiting…

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

Happy Bloggerversary

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Hey guys! I cannot believe that it has actually been a little over a year since I started my blog, after all the years of putting it off the first year came & went in the blink of an eye. My first post went live on December 11, 2018..I went into it with no real clue about blogging, how it actually worked or if this was something I could even be good at. I started with what I had (my iPhone 7+, a Chromebook & a vision) and just went for it. I knew I had a passion for fashion/style and was pretty good at writing so combining the two was perfect for me.

Over the past year I’ve been trying to figure out what direction I wanted to take my professional life in (I currently work in healthcare) but I always knew I had a strong interest for all things Fashion/Style so, I wanted to start a blog to see if that held my interest. Believe it or not there are people who live off of blogging (sponsorship’s, brand collaborations etc) alone, it has really become a game changer in recent years. Needless to say my interest is stronger now than it has ever been! It’s been my creative outlet this past year and my interest has grown so much since starting this blog. I knew I needed an outlet to help me express my creativity and a space where I could write and share it with whoever was willing to read it…even if that person was just me, LOL. I’ve received such good feedback over the past year which has been especially inspiring during my moments of doubt. Blogging looks so fun and easy on the outside (it is really fun) but it is far from easy. The main thing I think I’ve had trouble with is consistency, I’ll either go weeks/months without a single blog post or back to back posts…there is really no in between. Not really surprising to me being that I am an all in or all the way out kind of human, LOL.

For this particular shoot I had a completely different outfit in mind (which involved a skirt) but decided to go with this sort of monochromatic look instead. It hasn’t officially become Winter yet according to the calendar, but as far as I’m concerned once the temperature goes below 40 degrees It’s definitely winter in my book, LOL. If you’ve been reading my posts you already know I absolutely DESPISE the winter time, more particularly being cold in any capacity. I’ve been a big fan of Faux Fur for some time now and this Nasty Gal coat was love at first sight! I’m giving rich auntie tease in this entire look, it’s such a vibe! I’ve been wanting to do a monochromatic look and although this isn’t entirely all one color it is close enough, LOL. The blazer and pants are both from Pretty Little Thing and how come none of y’all never told me that their clothes were mediocre at best…or maybe that’s just my opinion. On the web sight the pants looked completely different than the paper thin pants I received in the mail, not to mention the fabrics didn’t match AT ALL. I was completely unhappy with the entire purchase smh but decided to make the best of it.

One thing blogging has taught me is that dedication is truly the key ingredient to accomplishing any goal, nothing happens if nothing happens. If you don’t have the passion or the drive than you don’t have the result(s), period or periodt…whichever one you prefer LOL. We live during a time where everyone has some type of side hustle so it’s easy to get caught up in other people’s lives but focusing on their results won’t get you the results you’re trying to get. Keep up with what you have going on even when you feel like nothing is happening, It’ll all pay off in the long run.

The internet can be a really weird place sometimes, your biggest supporters are often times complete strangers…while the people you’ve known nearly your entire life never even mentions your blog. I’ve always thought that was so strange until I realized not everybody will recognize or celebrate your accomplishments and that’s fine, I’m finally starting to get that now. That’s why I’ve always thought it was important to celebrate yourself and your accomplishments, even the small ones; even if you’re the only one cheering. Learn how to be your own cheerleader and motivation, keep going and grinding even if no one is clapping because trust me they see everything you’re doing even when they claim not too.

Nonetheless year one has been super dope and inspiring, I cannot wait to see what I come up with in the next year. As usual my mind is overflowing with ideas…being a creative with this much creative energy is overwhelming LOL. I’ve learned so much already and look forward to learning a shit ton more, I’m especially excited to watch this blog grow and see where it could take me. I talked about this in a post before but I think the hardest part about starting something new is just starting…that really is it. The process/journey is where you learn all the things you’ll need to progress, but if you don’t start you don’t learn shit. You can watch all the YouTube videos, read the blogs, listen to the Podcasts, so on and so forth and still not learn a fraction of the things you’ll learn from just doing it yourself. Those resources are helpful but experience is priceless. So if you’ve ever read any of my posts, sent me a message, left a comment, shared my photo(s) on Instagram or even the ghost readers, I thank you all! Seriously, it means a lot to me :). Year 1 down! So many more to go, stay tuned!

Me at my future house recording an episode of MTV cribs, LMAO! does that show even come on still? I just gave away my age LOL

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

Why you should stop procrastinating TODAY

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So I’m just gonna start off by saying I am probably one of the biggest procrastinators you’ve ever met, no exaggeration lol. I’m not sure what it is or why I do it so often, but it definitely has to be one of my least favorable traits. Lets take my blog for example; I clearly remember having a conversation on New Years Eve way back in either 2013 or 2014 with my friend about starting a blog, I’d just made my Instagram page and was formally introduced to blogging. Before Instagram I wasn’t really to familiar with blogging, only blog I really read was Necole Kane’s old blog Necolebitchie which was a music/fashion/gossip type of blog, but blogs strictly dedicated to fashion were all but foreign to me.

I literally waited about 5 years before I finally started this blog, FIVE WHOLE YEARS…that is NOT okay. I procrastinated soooooooo much to the point where nobody really wanted to hear nothing else about this blog I was supposed to start years ago. I was overflowing with ideas just letting time get away simply because of procrastination. I made myself believe that the internet didn’t need another fashion blogger which ultimately resulting in me putting it off year after year. I always knew I wanted to start one and I’d done the research and read enough blogs to know the basics on how to start but procrastination and fear won every time. I’d say things like; What if no one reads it? Where do I even start? I am NOT a computer person, how will I design the site? Who’s gonna take my pictures? What if no one reads it?…Again lol. I had every excuse you could think of, all the while just wasting time I could’ve used to at least start the damn thing. Out of everything I’ve done so far I’ve found that starting was the hardest part, I get a little mixed up sometimes with the analytics of the site but the hardest part has been starting….well that and taking my own photos out in public, LOL. I follow a lot of fashion bloggers and I hear people say all the time how in the beginning they struggled with everything from taking photos, gaining an audience to staying consistent, it wasn’t until years and years of trial and error that they finally got the hang of it. I also hear people say often how their blogs didn’t really gain any attention from brands or money for that matter until after being a blogger for several years. I just sit back and think about all the time I’ve wasted and cringe, procrastination will have you out here really missing out on opportunities all because you’re too scared to try. Unfortunately procrastination hasn’t just held me back from starting this blog but it has hindered me in other areas of my life as well. Before you know it days turn to weeks, weeks turn to months and months turn to years and you’ll look up and still haven’t done any of which you set out to do. The craziest part is that 9 times out of 10 you’re 100% capable of doing whatever it is you have your heart set on you but just let procrastination get the best of you.

Aside from procrastination I didn’t want to start from scratch, being at the bottom in a sense was such a turn off to me. I think it had a lot to do with what I was seeing everyday, as I mentioned before I follow a lot of fashion bloggers and I’ve witnessed their growth, growth that looked like it happened overnight. Obviously this isn’t the case but me from the outside looking in it sure did look like it, seeing that made me think of me being a beginner and I was not interested. I wanted to start and get the ball rolling right away and that is definitely not how this works. For some maybe that is the case but for most that simply isn’t it at all. You see people’s success and forget that you don’t know what part of their journey they’re on, maybe they’ve made 100 mistakes before reaching this level, maybe they’ve had their blog for 5+ years…you really never know what someone else’s story is. My favorite stories are the ones who quit their 9-5’s to pursue blogging full time, sounds like an absolute dream to me but it also sounds like a lot of preparation, dedication and hard work. All that to say you have to start somewhere, being a beginner is not a bad thing and with blogging being so common nowadays it’s so much easier to start now then say 5-6 years ago. There are plenty of how to tutorials and cheat sheets you just have to be willing to try.

So let’s get into this look…if you aren’t already aware I am a huge houndstooth fan, it has been a favorite of mine for so many years now. I purchased this sweater last year from Boohoo and was immediately drawn to the colors and fit of the sweater. When I received it in the mail I was in love, the quality is so good not to mention the comfort. I have really sensitive skin and a lot of times fuzzy sweaters irritate my skin so bad to the point where when I take them off my arms and chest are completely red and itchy 😩, thankfully that wasn’t the case with this sweater. The skirt I purchased from Nasty Gal and baybeeee let me tell you how I am obsessed with this here skirt! The color alone is just so perfect, this rich mustard color just screams chic to me. Definitely a color that cane be worn all year round versus maybe a lilac that we usually only see during the Spring. If you’ve been keeping up with my blog you already know my love for silk/satin slip dresses and this is just the skirt version of that 😂, clearly I’m not letting them go. I’ve also been into comfort lately so pairing this skirt with sneakers was a winning combination for me, skirts with sneakers have been the wave lately and I am so into it…my feet haven’t been happier, LOL.

I can’t believe that I am coming up on a year since I launched my blog, although we may not always realize it time really does fly by. I may not had started when I originally planned to but the important part is that I started, I might not understand it now but I’m sure I started when it was supposed to happen. We don’t always get to choose when something will happen we just gotta believe that it will. I cannot believe that we’re in the last 3 months of this decade 🤯, I really don’t understand where the time has gone! 25-35 yrs old has been mind boggling to say the least but this decade owes me nothing, I am so ready for the next 10yrs and to leave procrastinating behind!!

What’s something you’ve been putting off for days, weeks, months, years even? Whatever it is take it from me and do it soon, better yet start right NOW! Whatever was the first thing that came to your mind, yeah that. Don’t let another 10 years go by wishing you would’ve done something differently. You will never be 100% ready for anything in life so your best bet is to just start with what you have and learn as you go. Experience has and always will be the best teacher so what do you really have to loose? Aside from your dream(s)…don’t let fear/procrastination win. I think Nike said it best when they said, JUST DO IT…lol.

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

…..and do it NOW😆

Xx, Quita