New Normalcy?…..

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I’m sure I don’t have to state the obvious in saying that the world has been under some intense stress over that past few weeks, while everyone was tuning in to the news/social media keeping up with current events we all were still very optimistic. I think everyone reached their peak when the nation went into a mandatory quarantine requiring everyone to stay at home. Now I am an introvert so staying at home is not punishment to me, however, it has some of you guys going ape shit crazy LOL….While staying indoors is kinda my thing I have to admit that being told to stay inside is different, closing everything down has been weird, all these restrictions has had me in a whirlwind all week. It’s one thing to stay inside voluntarily but staying indoors because it’s not necessarily safe to be outside is wild af. I literally feel like we’re living right in the middle of a movie right now.

I work in healthcare, which by the way has been TRYING AS HELL this week, so the quarantine doesn’t really apply to me all that much. I am still required to be at work by 5 am sharp and stay my full shift, thankfully I only work 3 days a week so I guess it’s not all that bad. Being an “Essential” employee during a worldwide pandemic has really been eye opening, in all my years of working in healthcare I’ve never been required to be at work regardless of the state of the nation, aside from snow storms, this is new. Even during inclement weather I still have been given a pass to stay home because 98% of the patients won’t even show up :-/….Not so much with COVID-19 aka Coronavirus. I’m happy to be of service at such a fragile time but it has had its moments of pure stress.

I don’t think this time spent inside have to be a negative thing, aside from the obvious benefits of being safe, I believe we all could benefit from sitting still. As adults we’re always on the go, busy with work, life, being a spouse, a parent or simply adulting….sometimes it could feel impossible to find a moment of stillness. There’s always something that demands our attention making it difficult to sit still and just be in the moment. I too can relate to this 100%, it sometimes feel like downtime will never come :-/. Use this time to do all the things you have been putting off simply because you haven’t had the time, below I’ve listed 5 things you can do to use this time wisely.

  • Self Care…this could mean different things to different people but whatever makes you feel good is self care.
  • Read a book. I’ll admit I’ve been slacking BIG TIME on my book reading but I plan on getting back into it ASAP
  • Finish or Start that thing you’ve been postponing for God knows how long.
  • Find a new hobby…for me I’ve always wanted to get into painting. Find something you’ve been wanting to try and get on it.
  • Write/journal…writing has been my own kind of therapy for as long as I can remember.

On a lighter note the first day of Spring came and went without a peep LOL, everybody has been so wrapped up in the Coronavirus that nobody hardly noticed. I’m not really a Spring person but I do look forward to wearing less layers and lighter fabrics. I had a specific fit and shoot all planned out for my “First Day of Spring” post but this virus had other plans for all of us. These were taken about two weeks ago when life was a lot less hectic and chaotic. I froze my entire ass off during this whole shoot but at least I was allowed to be outside LOL. It’s crazy how we take the smallest things for granted not even realizing that they are actual privileges. I don’t think there’s been an official date for the quarantine lift but I do hope it’s sometime soon, while I do enjoy being home all I want right now is to get all cute and go out! I think it has more to do with the fact that I can’t because if I could my ass would be right in the house…LOL per usual.

What have you guys been doing to stay busy during the quarantine? Have you been told to work from home or are you an essential employee like me? :-/ I’m not even gonna lie I’ve been eating, drinking wine & sleeping all damn day…nothing outside of my usual activity LOL. But in all seriousness I hope you guys are following the proper protocol and keeping yourself & loved ones safe, I know this has probably been a lot to process but I have hope that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. I find that seeing all of the news about the virus 24/7 is mentally exhausting, especially for an empath like myself. If you need to cut off the news and log out of social media for a day or so DO THAT….your mental will thank you. In the meantime we all need to focus on staying safe and not going crazy from being on lockdown, if I see another challenge or Tik tok video on Instagram I’m going to actually go nuts LOL. Stay safe & sound guys!!

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

And wash your damn hands!!

Xx, Quita

Skinny Black Girl In America

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So, let’s talk….

Happy Women’s History Month! I thought I’d start this month off in particular with a subject very near and dear to me, something I’ve been dealing with for most of my life. I’m sure it’s not hard to see that I am a petite woman, or as most would say “Skinny”. Growing up and all throughout school this was never something that caused me any trouble or was even a concern, I was a perfectly healthy child/teenager who happened to be on the “Skinny” side. It wasn’t until I was around 15 maybe 16 when I started to notice that all of my friends were growing into these bodies that had hips, breast and ass while my body on the other hand still looked the same way it did in the 9th grade. Although it still hadn’t become an issue at that point it was something I did take notice of. As time went on and I entered early adulthood that’s when the insecurities started to come into play, that’s when the insensitivity from others started to happen, that’s when I began to allow my environment to affect me.

I would hear all types of comments and rude remarks regarding my weight, things that I would unintentionally internalize. Being a smaller woman comes with it’s own set of problems BUT being a skinny black woman in the black community is a whole other fight. In a culture where big butts, breast & hips are placed on a pedestal I was trying to find where I fit in, I was trying to feel confident in my own body. I think people forget that body shaming doesn’t just mean you’re calling someone fat or overweight, body shaming is when you make a comment on someone’s weight, period. Whether it be a comment about someone being fat or skinny NEITHER IS OKAY and both can leave the same effect on someone. If it’s not, ‘Girl, do you even eat?” it’s “You’re soooooo tiny, how do you manage to stay so thin??” and while some people don’t mean much harm others are very intentional with their remarks. Rule of thumb, never comment on someone’s weight…it’s insensitive and it’s rude.

I tried EVERYTHING to gain weight and I mean everything. I watched countless Youtube videos on “How to gain weight fast” and while they did give a plethora of options none of them really worked for me. Not to mention the shit became expensive as hell, but I was so determined to gain some pounds (Ass & hips…judge ya mother) that the money didn’t even bother me. I tried it all from protein smoothies, protein shakes, increasing my caloric intake, Maca root, working out (chile I don’t know how y’all do that workout shit) and the infamous Apetamin. I would not recommend that Apetamin stuff to NO ONE, the side effects were just too much to deal with. I have seen women get great results with it but I refuse to drink that stuff again…but to each its own. I was over doing it trying to become something I simply am not and it wasn’t worth it. When it all balls down to it the most important thing you can do is love yourself no matter how big or small you are, no one is perfect and truth be told no one is ever satisfied. I know women who want to be smaller and women who want to be bigger. Women who want to add a little bit here and take a little bit away there. We’re either stuffing our faces trying to pile on calories or trying multiple diets trying to shed some pounds….there’s always something.

Love yourself just the way you’re, you’re beautiful and if you ever need a reminder I’m here to do just that! I still have my days BUT I snap out of that shit fast, I don’t dwell on it. I was made just the way I am supposed to be and so were you. I’ll leave you with this piece from 2016 I wrote on my tumblr (who else had a tumblr?) tumblr was and still is my favorite Social Media account….

It is never okay to ridicule or make insensitive comments about somebody’s body image. If I had a dollar for every time someone has made comments such as: “wow, do you eat?”, “you’re soooooo skinny”, “where are you gonna put all that food?”, “you should eat more”…..etc I’d literally have enough money to pay off my student loans. Understand that you’re never in a position to make comments on something you know nothing about. It is no different than when someone makes a fat joke and everybody laughs, the shit hurts. I have been living with myself long enough to know that I am a petite woman, I do not need you to remind me of this every chance you get. Just because somebody is different from you doesn’t make them unhealthy and more importantly it doesn’t put you in a position to judge. With age came a thicker skin when it comes to this, however I truly do hate when complete fucking strangers take it upon themselves to voice their opinions. Even after I give them the look of death they still will proceed to ask even more insulting questions. In a generation where fat ass’s, big breast and wide hips are glorified, especially in the black community, it is often frowned upon to be on the skinny side. Luckily, I could give a shit less but when you insult me oh then we will have a problem. Just like it’s not okay to say, “He/she is big as a house” it also isn’t okay to say, “He/she looks like a skeleton”. People need to mind their own business and grow the fuck up, period. Worry about your own grass and why it isn’t growing instead of worrying about why somebody look the way they do. Your rude comments could be the last straw for somebody before they snap on you or even themselves. So next time you decide to take it upon yourself to say something in reference to someone’s body weight do me a favor….don’t.

People will have opinions but you know what they say about those 😉. Don’t let anyone convince you that there is something wrong with you because there isn’t, there’s something wrong with them for believing they can tell you what to do with YOUR body! Healthy lifestyle changes are 100% okay but don’t let society convince you that there is something wrong with you, do it because you want to not because you feel like you have too.

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style…..and confidence!

Signed, A skinny black girl who eats more than an elephant :).

Xx, Quita

Why you should stop procrastinating TODAY

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So I’m just gonna start off by saying I am probably one of the biggest procrastinators you’ve ever met, no exaggeration lol. I’m not sure what it is or why I do it so often, but it definitely has to be one of my least favorable traits. Lets take my blog for example; I clearly remember having a conversation on New Years Eve way back in either 2013 or 2014 with my friend about starting a blog, I’d just made my Instagram page and was formally introduced to blogging. Before Instagram I wasn’t really to familiar with blogging, only blog I really read was Necole Kane’s old blog Necolebitchie which was a music/fashion/gossip type of blog, but blogs strictly dedicated to fashion were all but foreign to me.

I literally waited about 5 years before I finally started this blog, FIVE WHOLE YEARS…that is NOT okay. I procrastinated soooooooo much to the point where nobody really wanted to hear nothing else about this blog I was supposed to start years ago. I was overflowing with ideas just letting time get away simply because of procrastination. I made myself believe that the internet didn’t need another fashion blogger which ultimately resulting in me putting it off year after year. I always knew I wanted to start one and I’d done the research and read enough blogs to know the basics on how to start but procrastination and fear won every time. I’d say things like; What if no one reads it? Where do I even start? I am NOT a computer person, how will I design the site? Who’s gonna take my pictures? What if no one reads it?…Again lol. I had every excuse you could think of, all the while just wasting time I could’ve used to at least start the damn thing. Out of everything I’ve done so far I’ve found that starting was the hardest part, I get a little mixed up sometimes with the analytics of the site but the hardest part has been starting….well that and taking my own photos out in public, LOL. I follow a lot of fashion bloggers and I hear people say all the time how in the beginning they struggled with everything from taking photos, gaining an audience to staying consistent, it wasn’t until years and years of trial and error that they finally got the hang of it. I also hear people say often how their blogs didn’t really gain any attention from brands or money for that matter until after being a blogger for several years. I just sit back and think about all the time I’ve wasted and cringe, procrastination will have you out here really missing out on opportunities all because you’re too scared to try. Unfortunately procrastination hasn’t just held me back from starting this blog but it has hindered me in other areas of my life as well. Before you know it days turn to weeks, weeks turn to months and months turn to years and you’ll look up and still haven’t done any of which you set out to do. The craziest part is that 9 times out of 10 you’re 100% capable of doing whatever it is you have your heart set on you but just let procrastination get the best of you.

Aside from procrastination I didn’t want to start from scratch, being at the bottom in a sense was such a turn off to me. I think it had a lot to do with what I was seeing everyday, as I mentioned before I follow a lot of fashion bloggers and I’ve witnessed their growth, growth that looked like it happened overnight. Obviously this isn’t the case but me from the outside looking in it sure did look like it, seeing that made me think of me being a beginner and I was not interested. I wanted to start and get the ball rolling right away and that is definitely not how this works. For some maybe that is the case but for most that simply isn’t it at all. You see people’s success and forget that you don’t know what part of their journey they’re on, maybe they’ve made 100 mistakes before reaching this level, maybe they’ve had their blog for 5+ years…you really never know what someone else’s story is. My favorite stories are the ones who quit their 9-5’s to pursue blogging full time, sounds like an absolute dream to me but it also sounds like a lot of preparation, dedication and hard work. All that to say you have to start somewhere, being a beginner is not a bad thing and with blogging being so common nowadays it’s so much easier to start now then say 5-6 years ago. There are plenty of how to tutorials and cheat sheets you just have to be willing to try.

So let’s get into this look…if you aren’t already aware I am a huge houndstooth fan, it has been a favorite of mine for so many years now. I purchased this sweater last year from Boohoo and was immediately drawn to the colors and fit of the sweater. When I received it in the mail I was in love, the quality is so good not to mention the comfort. I have really sensitive skin and a lot of times fuzzy sweaters irritate my skin so bad to the point where when I take them off my arms and chest are completely red and itchy 😩, thankfully that wasn’t the case with this sweater. The skirt I purchased from Nasty Gal and baybeeee let me tell you how I am obsessed with this here skirt! The color alone is just so perfect, this rich mustard color just screams chic to me. Definitely a color that cane be worn all year round versus maybe a lilac that we usually only see during the Spring. If you’ve been keeping up with my blog you already know my love for silk/satin slip dresses and this is just the skirt version of that 😂, clearly I’m not letting them go. I’ve also been into comfort lately so pairing this skirt with sneakers was a winning combination for me, skirts with sneakers have been the wave lately and I am so into it…my feet haven’t been happier, LOL.

I can’t believe that I am coming up on a year since I launched my blog, although we may not always realize it time really does fly by. I may not had started when I originally planned to but the important part is that I started, I might not understand it now but I’m sure I started when it was supposed to happen. We don’t always get to choose when something will happen we just gotta believe that it will. I cannot believe that we’re in the last 3 months of this decade 🤯, I really don’t understand where the time has gone! 25-35 yrs old has been mind boggling to say the least but this decade owes me nothing, I am so ready for the next 10yrs and to leave procrastinating behind!!

What’s something you’ve been putting off for days, weeks, months, years even? Whatever it is take it from me and do it soon, better yet start right NOW! Whatever was the first thing that came to your mind, yeah that. Don’t let another 10 years go by wishing you would’ve done something differently. You will never be 100% ready for anything in life so your best bet is to just start with what you have and learn as you go. Experience has and always will be the best teacher so what do you really have to loose? Aside from your dream(s)…don’t let fear/procrastination win. I think Nike said it best when they said, JUST DO IT…lol.

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

…..and do it NOW😆

Xx, Quita

Workspace revamped

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If you’re anything like me you hate clutter, there’s nothing worse than trying to create in a disorderly atmosphere. I take my creative process pretty seriously and need to have some kind of zen while doing so. While I love a quaint coffee shop just as much as the next person, sometimes I want to be able to just sit in the comfort of my own home and work. I was in need of a new desk so I decided to make a space in home where I could peacefully create. After a few D.I.Y You Tube videos I came up with this space and couldn’t be more pleased with it! Between Walmart, Amazon, Dollar tree and Five and below I did it all for a little over $100 and honestly that’s the best part.

So let me be very clear I HATE putting stuff together, like really dislike it. I’m not reading no instructions and I’m not using no tools lmao, although pretty simple this desk/chair had me wanting to pull my hair out. I don’t know if this is standard for all instructions or what but the instructions provided were just pictures, that’s it lol. Now at first I thought it was a good idea to use pictures but as time went on and my patience wore out I soon realized it was a bad idea, a very bad idea. Between all the screws & the wrong size screwdriver I was literally over it…and to think the reviews all said it was super easy to put together, yeah okay lol. Although a few hiccups here and there I was able to put both the chair and desk together without either pieces collapsing, lol. The chair is a tiny bit wobbly and one of the shelves is slightly off balance BUT I got it done :).

I purchased this photo of the Brooklyn bridge from Five and Below thinking it was A LOT bigger than it actually was…when I received it in the mail I was far from happy and completely confused. For $5 I guess you couldn’t expect much…The picture barely covered a quarter of my wall which led me to getting even more creative (we’ll get to that in a second) lol. I purchased My Himalayan salt lamp from Walmart back in January and it’s definitely one of my favorite things in my home. It has so many great benefits including; mood enhancement and raising energy levels. I keep it on all the time unless I am not home, I even keep a small one on my desk at work. I purchased the faux monstera leaves from Amazon because am I really a blogger if I don’t have some up? Lol, it’s definitely the official plant of bloggers!Now when I received the small photo of the Brooklyn bridge I knew I had to put something else on the wall. I’ve been obsessed with Z-Galleries glitter wall art for awhile now but the price tag was less than pleasing. Well, You Tube had just the cure for that lol for about $25 and some creativity you can have your very own Z-Gallerie inspired wall art for a fraction of the price! I really enjoyed making these, I’ve been wanting to get into painting for some time now and this was the perfect gateway project. Now of course I had yet another hiccup trying to hang these 😩, one of them wouldn’t stick AT ALL and the other one I couldn’t get it to be 100% straight! Tip: just get someone to help you, it’ll save you the headache. Now if you know me you know I’m not really into flowers but I’ve always loved how sleek and chic the Maison des Fleurs flower boxes are, if nothing else they serve as nice decor. This diy was pretty simple and turned out so good! I’m already thinking of making a gold and white one.

I made these coffee table books from random dollar tree books, they were pretty simple to make. A quick google search to find the logos I wanted and boom! The mug was a complete fail gone right, I originally had glitter all over the front of the mug BUT after it dried some of it started to peel, so to speed up the process I peeled off even more and this is what I was left with lol. I liked how it looked up against my painting, the two compliment each other well. The candle I did purchase from Bath & Body Works and whew chile, this candle smells so good! If I had to describe it I’d say tall, dark and handsome lol it reminds me of a subtle cologne scent. Definitely not overpowering at all with hints of mahogany, a very sexy scent.Who else gets excited about stationary items as much as I do? Lol, I really have about a dozen little notebooks laying around, all of which serve a different purpose. Pictured in these photos are my planner, blog book, manifestation journal & dream journal. I’m a writer what can I say…Fun Fact: I carry a notebook around with me EVERYWHERE. If I don’t have at least one I feel weird lol like when I have a small purse that I cannot fit a notebook into i feel like I’m missing something. I know my writers will all understand.This is where the magic happens….LOL

I used to really be into DIY projects years ago back when my patience was a little better lol, I’m really thinking about getting back into it though. Do you have a space in your home specifically dedicated to you? I think we all should! A meditation corner, office space, even an area where you work out. If not you should definitely do it, it’s so beneficial. Put your own little spin on it and watch how you’re gonna feel! It’s definitely a game changer. Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

Creating your own lane

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When I finally decided to start my blog I brainstormed for awhile all the things I wanted to incorporate into it to make it true to me. What parts of myself should I include to differentiate this blog from all the others? This, for awhile, had me stumped…not because I didn’t know what I wanted to say but I didn’t know how much to share. We’re all multifaceted people with so many different sides and perspectives…it finally hit me that the secret ingredient was me. Not a single soul can do me better than I can and the same goes for everyone else. I think we get so caught up with how will we stand out that we forget that being yourself is simply enough, authenticity is always in style. I’m not a flower girl, at all, but sunflowers have held a special place in my heart for some time now. There’s something so bright and cheerful about having them around. Since I’m always struggling with hand placement during my shoots…I decided to add them to these photos for aesthetic purposes and for something to do with my hands lol. One thing I was 100% certain of was that I didn’t want this to just be a blog where I post pretty outfit photos and that’s it. I wanted to create a space where I could be myself freely, without limitations and judgement. I know there will be some people who judge regardless, and that’s not my problem, but I didn’t want to limit myself because of that. Yes, this is primarily a fashion blog but it’s important to me to still be able to have real conversations while connecting with my readers. I wanted to be able to write and be relatable all while looking fly.

Speaking of real lets talk about these little Debbie back rolls 🤦🏽‍♀️idk if it was the top or the way I was positioned but yeah… there they’re. I don’t know how to edit out back rolls so y’all gonna get them today lol. Real ass bish give a fuck about a back roll ( In my City Girls voice)

Lately I’ve become a big fan of A-Line skirts, with them being so comfortable and versatile there’s not much to dislike. The length has got to be my favorite thing about them, they’re not to long or short making them the perfect all occasions skirt. Me standing at 5 2′ definitely can appreciate a skirt that compliments my height. Long skirts can be such a hassle when they’re constantly dragging on the ground while short skirts are altogether a headache…both styles are cute but for a more relaxed fit I go with the A-Line style. This skirt in particular is so comfy and chic, the material is so lightweight making it the perfect skirt for the summer heat. I purchased both the skirt and bodysuit from Forever 21, prior to this I hadn’t shopped there in nearly a year. For me Forever 21 is either hit or miss, this time around definitely a hit but I’ve had enough misses to last a while lol. Style Tip: Do not buy their jeans, ever….Thank me later 😉. Forever 21 is one of those quick fashion places but good quality items are sometimes hard to come by. The bodysuit is super comfy and the material is a dream, I already want to rewear it again with some type of denim. It’s a little revealing while exposing lots of side boob but side boob ain’t never hurt nobody! That is if you’re apart of the B-cup crew lol otherwise I’d advise against it.

Being a creative can sometimes be mentally exhausting, there’s always an idea for something constantly running through my mind. Always trying to come up with new ways to create content while staying true to myself. It’s gotten to the point where sometimes I feel like I may go crazy if I don’t get these ideas out, even if it’s just jotting it down on a piece of paper so I don’t forget. Creative tip: When something comes to mind write it down as soon as you can, I cannot tell you how many times I’ve come up with ideas and totally forgot them by the time I thought about it later. I hate that! My notes in my phone are filled with ideas, I can always refer back to them when I’m in a creative block. In this creative field I think it’s so important to remember why you started and remain grounded, everyday won’t be a good one. Some days you’ll get a lot of views some days you’ll get two, it’s just the way things are. You’ll come to a couple bumps in the road but nothing you can’t get over. The good part about staying in your lane is there’s no traffic, so you can move at your own pace; stay consistent but don’t rush. You don’t have to worry about keeping up with the speed limit because there is none, you determine how slow or fast you’ll go. I’ve found quality over quantity to be the best strategy when it comes to blogging. This week I posted two posts, it maybe awhile before that happens again lol but my point is this is my space, my pace. Don’t let the internet rush you, there’s nothing worse then promoting crappy content just to keep up with the Jonses. I know I haven’t been doing this long but I do appreciate the ones who do read it and even message me complimenting me, y’all the shit! Some people will support you others will pretend they don’t see you, either way keep doing your thing. Hard work and consistency always pays off in the end, it’s your lane, let them catch up eventually. Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

10 things I wish I knew before turning 30…

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  • With my 35TH birthday just around the corner I thought I’d round up a list of things I wish I knew before I actually turned 30. When I think about turning 35 I immediately think, 5 years til 40, and literally start to panic lol. Not that I’m afraid of getting old or am dreading it altogether but it’s really like, wow little ole me is gonna be 40 soon. I start to think of all the things I wanna do, need to do, wanted to do, or just haven’t done (yet) and start to worry that my time is running low. There’s this thing people have with growing old (especially women) that gets them worked up about multiple things, including the concept of time. Since entering the “Dirty 30″ years of my life I’ve learned so much about myself! My 20’s were the decade of fun, mistakes, several friendships (most of which have ended), love, heartbreak, experiences, partying, drinking, reinventing myself (I’m sure I’ve had every hair color you can think of), finding myself, losing myself & finding myself again. My 20’s was a roller coaster ride to say the least lol but I can truly say I wouldn’t have had it any other way. Now that I’ve survived the first 4 yrs of my 30’s I have some things I wish someone would’ve told me before 6/25/2014 lol. Where are all my Cancers at?! We get a bad rap but we’re definitely the best sign in the zodiac 😆.
  • 1. All the partying and drinking will rarely happen, if ever. Now one night of partying requires 3-5 business days of recuperating and 3 solid days of uninterrupted sleep. Just the thought of chugging down vodka makes my stomach queasy. Wine will be your best friend and bedtime is 10 pm lol.

    2. Men will grow older in age but that’s about it lol. I think I read somewhere that men don’t mentally mature until 43 yrs old…yep, let that sink in.

    3. People will enter your life for seasons and leave once their time is up, let them. Your sanity is worth more than history.

    4. Your stomach cannot tolerate all the junk you choose to eat lol your diet will need to change.

    5. Shit will happen, things will fall a part, sometimes the failure is just a lesson in disguise. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

    6. Turning 30 doesn’t mean your life automatically falls into place, you’re still learning every single day. Your journey doesn’t stop, chin up it gets better.

    7. Turning 30 doesn’t automatically come with the husband and kids. It will happen when it’s meant to happen, relax you’re NOT running out of time.

    8. It’s all down hill from here lol nah but seriously your body will start to age 😭. Your feet will need good support shoes, your legs wont be as swift as they used to be and everything makes you tired…everything lol.

    9. The things you chose to ignore in your twenties will show up again and again and again until you acknowledge them. They will show up in different ways and in different people to teach you the same lesson(s), don’t ignore the signs. Procrastination is the devil.

    10. Last but certainly not least….play time is over! Lol…Now I don’t mean that in the literal sense (as we all know what they say about all work and no play) but your future is depending on today’s decisions. Don’t dedicate all of your time obsessing over the future but don’t neglect it either, focus on today but don’t forget about tomorrow.

    Birthdays have always been super special to me because of the opportunity to reflect on your past year. Although to many turning a year older comes with a plethora of worries and anxiety for me it’s a huge blessing. In my twenties it was all about parties and fun to bring in my birthday, now I’d rather do more low key things. Speaking of which, my birthday is a few days away and I still have no plans…as we get older birthdays definitely are just another day 😂.

    How do you guys celebrate your birthday? Do you have something big with a bunch of friends/family or do you do something more intimate and low key?? Any last minute ideas I could possibly borrow? Let me know down below! I can’t believe another year has come and gone just that fast. Time sure does fly when you hit them 30’s Lol.

    Here’s to another trip around the moon! 34 it’s been real ✌🏽

    Thanks for stopping by and as always, whatever you do, do it with style.

    Xx, Quita

    *Dress, shoes and fanny pack all from Boohoo. Com*

    “Bon Bini”…Welcome to Aruba!

    Travel

    If there’s anything I enjoy just as much as I do fashion, it would have to be traveling, traveling has always held a special place in my heart. I remember hearing about Aruba at a very young age (my parents honeymooned in Aruba) but didn’t really know what an amazing island it actually was. I recently went on a trip to Aruba and had an absolute blast! Of all the places I’ve visited Aruba has definitely landed a spot in my top five destinations. Between the crystal blue water, pretty white sand beaches, friendly locals and perfect weather (which never went higher than 83 degrees with a consistent breeze and no rain) there’s not much to dislike about this island. I’ve been to islands that were super turnt and islands that were more laid back and Aruba was definitely more laid back, depending on what you’re looking for in a vacation. May came super fast as I started planning for this trip back in February, I was packed and ready to go for my 5 night 6 day getaway!

    I research EVERYTHING, and this trip was no different…I looked up all the cool things to do while vacationing in Aruba. The one thing that came up repeatedly were the flamingos, after a quick Instagram search and I see why they are so popular. These gorgeous, slightly timid, birds were such a treat to be around. They are sorta shy and won’t come anywhere near you and don’t think about getting to close to them either lol although pretty harmless they’re somewhat introverted. You’re more than welcomed to take photos with them just at a proper distance. Most people go to The Renaissance to see them but we chose De Palm Island, which is an all inclusive type of water park. Although it isn’t actually a hotel it’s more of an activities resort. Included in the cover charge was; transportation to and from your hotel, banana boating, snorkeling, zip lining, a water park (including some really cool slides), open bar, all you can eat Buffet (with really good food), several small picturesque beaches, lounge chairs, live entertainment (with salsa dancing lessons) and the main attraction being the flamingos. I definitely took advantage of all the activities they had to offer. It was about $120 for an all day pass (8 hours) which also included a quick ferry ride from the pier to the actual beach. There were also other excursions you could book (for an additional cost) with one of them being Sea Treking.

    Send help! Lol

    I wanted to do this so bad, I even paid but couldn’t get past the helmet thingy being on my head lol. I am a huge water person (I’m a water sign) and am not by any means afraid of water but I have a real fear of being claustrophobic…that nearly sent me into a panic attack. I couldn’t get the breathing down to save my life and ended up not doing it 😩 I did try though lol I get an “E” for effort right?

    Say hello to my little friend , “Ritmo” lol

    Another cool thing I did was horseback riding through the mountains, this was definitely a fun time. I’m no stranger to riding, as I’ve rode them plenty as a child, but this was a completely different experience. They took us on a trail through the mountains and past a beautiful, picture perfect beach. Fun Fact: The horses really enjoy walking on the sand, after walking on the hard trails all day long the soft sand is like a treat for their hooves. They get really excited and will start to act like it lol. My horse in particular started to gallop and nearly took off leaving the rest of the group behind. My horses name was “Ritmo” and boy was he a ball of energy, we were right behind the line leader but he was determined to root the line and be the leader. He wanted to do his own thing and lead the line so bad lol (sounds a lot like myself). In Aruba they don’t allow the horses to actually walk through the water as the tourists complained to much about the waste and the tides can be to strong. They did however take us to Aruba’s Natural Pool which was so serene with stunning views!

    The pool is surrounded by volcanic stone circles and rocks, the rugged terrain makes this pool only accessible by 4×4, hiking or my choice of transportation, horseback. It’s one of Aruba’s most sought after natural attractions. All the bumps in the road and at times heavy galloping was well worth it to get to this! My thighs ached for about 3 days afterwards 😩but I’d do it all over again.

    My legs felt like jello at this point lol

    I did manage to get in a little partying while there, although not the busiest nightlife scene, they did have a crazy fun party bus! The bus (which was an actual yellow school bus with all the windows knocked out) was lively and super lit! It stopped at 4 different bars with about 40-45 minutes in each bar. Cover charge and a free complimentary shot at each location was included in the cost. It was definitely a good time!

    Our bus driver “Barbie” was a cool ass chick who definitely stayed energized the entire night lol

    Check out my Instagram @Storiesxstyle under highlights “Aruba“ to see all the live footage of the bus! Lol

    I love Ceviche , it wasn’t Mexico’s but it was good!
    There’s something so calming about the palm trees at night

    Overall I would give Aruba a 8/10! I wasn’t at all impressed with the food options which is why I only gave it an 8 because a girls gotta eat lol. I was expecting more of a Caribbean type of cuisine but most of the food was mainly American dishes. The official language of Aruba is, Papiamento & Dutch, although most of them speak several languages including English. It was never hard to communicate with any of the natives. The currency in Aruba is the Aruban Florin but US dollars are accepted just as much. To be completely honest, aside from the homes I saw up in the mountains, Aruba looks really Americanized to me but that’s just my opinion.

    Have any of you guys ever been to Aruba? If so what are your thoughts?? I’d definitely visit again, I am already imagining myself being on another island sometime soon. For me if there’s no beach included then is it really even a vacation?? Lol I will say that I did the most activities on this particular trip than I’ve ever done on one single trip. I’m more of a beach bum, I have no problem sunbathing all day long…with a cocktail of course lol. Do you have any travel plans this summer? If so, where are you headed? We’re officially in the countdown to summer! Thanks for stopping by and as always, whatever you do, do it with style.

    Xx, Quita