Bloggerversary/ Happy New Year

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Hey girl hey! Let me first start off by saying Happy New Year, Happy Black History Month, happy new president, happy new black female Vice President & happy 2 yr Bloggerversary to me. I took these photos back in early December with the sole purpose of posting them for my Bloggerversary which was mid December. To be completely honest I didn’t like these photos at first, 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m not sure why but they ended up being pushed into my “maybe I’ll use them someday” file. Fast forward to the end of January and a couple edits later and I finally had a change of heart & thought to myself, now why would I never let these photos see the light of day? They’re actually cute and somebody gonna see these photos! Lol

When I thought about what I wanted to shoot to commemorate my 2nd year of blogging, I thought about how we’ve been stuck indoors for most of the year and decided I’d shoot something inside. I was largely influenced by the “Instagram photo shoots” I’ve been seeing all over Instagram as well as Pinterest and decided to do that instead of shooting outdoors. All the influencer’s have been throwing up a sheet and adding cute little props while shooting in their own homes, since we’re technically still in the middle of a pandemic and should still be inside. I’m not even gonna lie I wasn’t the most efficient this past year when it came to blogging and I blame that on Ms Corona, she definitely came in and showed her entire ass (and still is if we’re being honest)😒. I work in healthcare on the front line and I’ve had some incredibly stressful days while working during this pandemic, to the point where my blog was probably the last thing on my mind. Besides that there wasn’t much to shoot being we were stuck in the house wearing lounge wear, stuffing our faces and increasing our wine intake. I figured the last thing anybody cared about was fashion (surprisingly myself included) so I didn’t blog for most of the time we were in quarantine…

The thing with that is I am naturally a creative person, fashion for me is not just about getting dressed up and looking fly. I wish it were that easy but for me it’s an outlet, it’s a lifestyle and sometimes when I’m in a slump, it’s a lifesaver. It keeps me sane, it allows me to take all my energy and use it to create and that is something I will never take for granted. I literally couldn’t imagine not being a creative person…whew how boring. I’ve been blogging for over two years now and even if not a single soul reads my posts I’ll still create, I’ll still write, because in the end it is for me. It’ll always be for me, first.

So with that mentality I went into Home Depot and purchased a sheet that costs me less than $10, pulled out all my 2020 Vogues, reached for my favorite accessory (a wine glass) and boom! The set up looked like something straight off of Pinterest, LOL. Now for the fit I went with this Nasty Gal double breasted pinstripe suit that I am absolutely obsessed with! Funny Story: I purchased these pants first (months before I even saw the blazer) with no particular look in mind but I thought they were too good not to get. They’re SUPER long and me standing at a strong 5 2’ I was drowning in them 😂.

Where are my feet? 👀😂

Even with the heels on I was standing on these damn pants 😩, I started to get some hemming tape but I didn’t. I couldn’t imagine wearing these out and walking on the bottoms all day, not to mention I absolutely hate when my pants drag the ground. Like I HATE IT, it’s so gross to me when they get all dirty and damp from being on the ground 🤢…I’ll throw the pants away. Lol. Now while the pants tried to embarrass me the blazer is another story! This blazer is so perfect, it fits great and is double breasted. I ended up getting the blazer after I already had the pants and the two were obviously meant to be. I’m not even sure why I didn’t see it when I purchased the pants but whatever, better late than never. The two paired together is such a match made in fashion heaven.

So we’re already into the second month of 2021 and I’ll say it’s pretty much been 2020 reloaded 😂. The highlight for me so far has been the Inauguration that recently took place. That had to be the most stylish, eye pleasing, Inauguration I’ve ever watched! Like I stated in a previous post, your political views are just that, yours and none of my concern BUT you have to admit that the girls did not come to play this year! The star of the show for me was my forever First Lady Michelle Obama wearing that plum/burgundy Sergio Hudson outfit! Baby when I tell you I had to contain my excitement when her and President Obama walked in because I was at work, whew! I mean the hair, the fit, the confidence, the walk…ughhhh she definitely ate the girls up!! Another favorite look of mine was first daughter Ashley Biden’s tuxedo she wore with the undone bow tie! I was in freaking love 😍, it’s no secret that I am a suit wearer/lover and the undone bow tie was the icing on the cake. I mean a fashion rebel in the White House is definitely a breath of fresh air and I am soooooooo here for it! Oh and let’s not forget President Biden’s grandchildren served lewkssssss honey but the young lady that wore the dress with the Jordan 1’s holds a special place on my best dressed list 🙌🏽. And while we’re on the subject I know I wasn’t the only one who peeped the man running down the steps in the Dior 1’s…I mean y’all know those are my favorite sneaker EVER and to see them during the Inauguration was iconic!

How has 2021 been for you so far? I mean I don’t even count January ever because it’s always some leftover bullshit from the previous year lingering around in January. Not to mention January ALWAYS seems like the longest month of the year or is that just me?? IDK but we’re in February which is black history month (although black history is all fucking year) and I’m rooting for everybody black (word to Issa)! Now that January is history let’s really start the new year…

Until next time

Xx, Quita

The single girls guide to the holidays

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Hey girl hey! So, we’re exactly one month away from Christmas and just a few hours away from Thanksgiving which officially kicks off the holiday season! As I’ve gotten older I’ve become a lot less enthusiastic for the holidays but I wouldn’t consider myself to be the grinch either, LOL. For the single woman the holidays can become a tad bit lonely ( I blame all those cheesy Hallmark Christmas movies where the woman falls madly in love on Thanksgiving, is engaged on Christmas & married by New Years Day 🥴). We watch these movies with a glass(s) of wine secretly cursing every fuck boy that has ever wasted our time. No date for Thanksgiving dinner…again (your family is secretly judging you for this😭), no kissing under the mistletoe, no New Years kiss at 12 and while we’re on the subject we might as well include Valentine’s Day too. No chocolate and teddy bear or whatever y’all be accepting as gifts, LOL. I know this can suck but it doesn’t have too…I’ve listed 5 things you can do to ease the holiday scaries 😂. Now unless I meet a tall, dark, handsome, nice smile, good smelling, nicely dressed man in Target today ( in which case I Am no longer single LOL) we’re in this together 😂.

Let’s face it no matter how much you try to hide the holidays are coming so you might as well enjoy them. When your family asks you who you’re bringing to dinner tell them your outfit 😂 because a fabulous outfit is much better than a fuck boy you’re probably only entertaining because you’re bored. That way they won’t be giving you the side eye when you show up next year with a completely different person because that will be your future husband (I’m speaking this over yours as well as my life)! So, here’s my top 5 ways to deal with the stress of the upcoming weeks.

  • Host a Friendsgiving! I’ve always wanted to do this but just haven’t gotten around to it. I don’t know who thought of this but I think it’s a pretty cool idea. We’re certainly thankful for our friends too, especially the ones who listen to us complain over and over again about the same guy. Lol. We’re usually with our families on the actual holiday so why not have a separate shin dig with our friends.
  • Have a secret Santa gift exchange between you and a few close friends. It doesn’t have to be super expensive because it’s always the thought that count. Maybe you and your girls could get all dressed up and go to brunch to exchange gifts. Set a price limit for the gift and toast over bottomless mimosas!
  • Host a Christmas party! Something small and intimate while keeping COVID-19 in mind you can still have something for a small amount of close friends. This can be an ugly sweater party or even a pajama party. My family and I have a Christmas pajama party every year on Christmas Eve. We wear our Christmas pjs, bake cookies, watch Christmas movies and drink spiked egg nog, LOL. It’s a tradition for us!
  • Buy yourself something nice! I know we’re supposed to be shopping for others and we will but don’t forget about yourself! You deserve gifts just as much as the next person. If you don’t have a man to buy you those shoes or that bag you really want then buy 👏🏽 it 👏🏽 for 👏🏽 your 👏🏽 self.! You’ll appreciate it more when you can do it for yourself.
  • Love on yourself! This is especially important during times of increased stress, this can look like different things for different people but it all balls down to self care. Make sure you’re taking extra good care of yourself during the holiday season. On top of everything else going on in the world the holidays can become hectic. From dealing with family members you only see during the holidays, stressing over buying the perfect gift(s), to seeing all the “happy” couples on your socials celebrating together it can get tough BUT you got this!

*Bonus tip*

  • Use all the money you saved from NOT buying a PS5 or whatever these men are asking for these days to book a trip! LOL. Being single during the holidays only really means more money in your pocket and who doesn’t like money? I’ll wait 😂.

Let’s be honest though we all have that one sneaky link who could possibly be bae but you know….options, LOL. Happy Holiday Season!

Until next time

Xx, Quita

Go hard or go home

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Hey guys! I hope everyone has been well and healthy during these crazy and unprecedented times. I don’t have to state the obvious in saying that 2020 has been INSANE, like absolutely nuts on so many different levels. From a worldwide pandemic (which forced the entire world to shut down) to the truly tragic events that has happened to African Americans across the country, its been pretty hard to wrap my mind around any of it. I haven’t really been in the mood to blog let alone get dressed up and take photos…with everything going on I just felt like there were much more important things to do & talk about.

The only problem with that is once I stopped doing what I enjoyed I became a bit discouraged, like my energy levels were extremely low. The current events had sucked every ounce of creative energy I had left in me. I thought what little energy I did have should be used in trying to make a difference doing my part to help with the senseless acts of violence ( by the hands of the very ones who swore to Protect & Serve), to showing up to work every morning at 4:30 am to care for extremely ill patients….all while trying to stay safe and COVID-19 free. I was going crazy trying to stay sane 😩 & not to mention the fact that I’m an em-path so add that to the mix and I was a complete mess. I felt like I was losing myself trying to stay connected to what was going on around me, I needed to get back to me ASAP. With all that we have going on in the world I think it’s very important to find your piece of peace, to stay connected to what makes you you and for me that is obviously fashion/writing.

I mentioned in an earlier post how fashion/writing has always been my creative outlet, something I turn to whenever I felt stuck. After four months of not writing a single blog post I knew that when I did it would come effortlessly. Sometimes all you need to do is unplug and give yourself some time to recharge. I had this idea to shoot on a basketball court since last year sometime but never got around to it, for this particular post I knew I wanted to do a sporty/chic kind of look with a suit and sneakers. Although Boohoo sent me the wrong color (I ordered a hot pinkish/red suit) I made this color work but when I saw they sent me this pastel pink color instead I was pissed😒.

I wish I could’ve seen my face when I opened the package lol I was like, “The hell am I supposed to do with this Easter pink suit…?!” 😂. Add that to the fact that I hate pink and well I was beyond annoyed, however I was not about to go through the whole process of sending it back to the UK after waiting damn near two weeks to receive the package. So, I coughed it up as a loss and kept it moving. If you’ve got true style you’ll make a garbage bag look good 😉.

I threw on the sports bra, fanny pack, Cortez Nike classics & Nike socks for a little sporty razzle dazzle and viola the look was complete. On this day it had to be at least 90+ degrees in the middle of the day so imagine how hot I was during this shoot! I was so irritable and wanted to get it over with ASAP, then after roasting in the hot sun I looked at the pictures and couldn’t find a single one I liked, lmao. I think I was just over it that day because I looked at them the next day and had a change of heart. After damn near passing out from the heat somebody was gonna see these pics…lol.

While I don’t know when/if things will ever go back to the way they were I’ve still done a little summer shopping. I’m not sure where I’m headed to but I’ve got a slip dress(s) on hand just in case, lol. I know where I live we’re considered to be in phase two of reopening which does include outdoor dining. I’m the girl who loves a good brunch situation that includes endless mimosas with my girls. I’m all for being home by 9:00 and sleep by 10:00 lol…what can I say I’m in my mid thirties 👀. Oh yeah I forgot to mention I turned a year older during my absence, although I was supposed to be barefoot on an island sipping frozen margaritas while dancing to reggae with somebody’s son my bday weekend was an absolute blast! A few hiccups here & there (I lost my phone in an Uber, literally tracked the Uber man down to retrieve it, my bday picnic got completely rained out and I had a complete meltdown) with the help of friends & family I really did enjoy my weekend 😆.

Although 2020 has been an absolute shit show thus far I haven’t cancelled this year! Pressure makes diamonds and I’m not ready to throw the towel in & neither should you. We’ve spent a lot of time sitting home which I believe is prime time to complete any goals you may have had. We complain so much about not having time to do things and now more than ever all we have is time, so why not use it wisely. I’ve been in an uncomfortable space as of late but I think it’s all because of growth, growth always feels uncomfortable in the beginning. I can hardly believe we’re already in the last half of the year, time has flown by so fast! What have you done with your down time? Let’s all commit to those goals and finish up the last half of the year strong. I don’t know about you but I’ve got a couple things up my sleeve I’m working on and I don’t plan on letting myself down. I’m not sure when I’ll write another post, could be tomorrow, next week, next month or next year but I will be back lol. In the meantime lets keep showing up for ourselves & one another….I think more than ever we need each other to get through these wild ass times. Let’s keep our foots on their necks and our minds on our goals. Until next time…

Xx. Quita

P.S. Justice for Breona Taylor