New Normalcy?…..

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I’m sure I don’t have to state the obvious in saying that the world has been under some intense stress over that past few weeks, while everyone was tuning in to the news/social media keeping up with current events we all were still very optimistic. I think everyone reached their peak when the nation went into a mandatory quarantine requiring everyone to stay at home. Now I am an introvert so staying at home is not punishment to me, however, it has some of you guys going ape shit crazy LOL….While staying indoors is kinda my thing I have to admit that being told to stay inside is different, closing everything down has been weird, all these restrictions has had me in a whirlwind all week. It’s one thing to stay inside voluntarily but staying indoors because it’s not necessarily safe to be outside is wild af. I literally feel like we’re living right in the middle of a movie right now.

I work in healthcare, which by the way has been TRYING AS HELL this week, so the quarantine doesn’t really apply to me all that much. I am still required to be at work by 5 am sharp and stay my full shift, thankfully I only work 3 days a week so I guess it’s not all that bad. Being an “Essential” employee during a worldwide pandemic has really been eye opening, in all my years of working in healthcare I’ve never been required to be at work regardless of the state of the nation, aside from snow storms, this is new. Even during inclement weather I still have been given a pass to stay home because 98% of the patients won’t even show up :-/….Not so much with COVID-19 aka Coronavirus. I’m happy to be of service at such a fragile time but it has had its moments of pure stress.

I don’t think this time spent inside have to be a negative thing, aside from the obvious benefits of being safe, I believe we all could benefit from sitting still. As adults we’re always on the go, busy with work, life, being a spouse, a parent or simply adulting….sometimes it could feel impossible to find a moment of stillness. There’s always something that demands our attention making it difficult to sit still and just be in the moment. I too can relate to this 100%, it sometimes feel like downtime will never come :-/. Use this time to do all the things you have been putting off simply because you haven’t had the time, below I’ve listed 5 things you can do to use this time wisely.

  • Self Care…this could mean different things to different people but whatever makes you feel good is self care.
  • Read a book. I’ll admit I’ve been slacking BIG TIME on my book reading but I plan on getting back into it ASAP
  • Finish or Start that thing you’ve been postponing for God knows how long.
  • Find a new hobby…for me I’ve always wanted to get into painting. Find something you’ve been wanting to try and get on it.
  • Write/journal…writing has been my own kind of therapy for as long as I can remember.

On a lighter note the first day of Spring came and went without a peep LOL, everybody has been so wrapped up in the Coronavirus that nobody hardly noticed. I’m not really a Spring person but I do look forward to wearing less layers and lighter fabrics. I had a specific fit and shoot all planned out for my “First Day of Spring” post but this virus had other plans for all of us. These were taken about two weeks ago when life was a lot less hectic and chaotic. I froze my entire ass off during this whole shoot but at least I was allowed to be outside LOL. It’s crazy how we take the smallest things for granted not even realizing that they are actual privileges. I don’t think there’s been an official date for the quarantine lift but I do hope it’s sometime soon, while I do enjoy being home all I want right now is to get all cute and go out! I think it has more to do with the fact that I can’t because if I could my ass would be right in the house…LOL per usual.

What have you guys been doing to stay busy during the quarantine? Have you been told to work from home or are you an essential employee like me? :-/ I’m not even gonna lie I’ve been eating, drinking wine & sleeping all damn day…nothing outside of my usual activity LOL. But in all seriousness I hope you guys are following the proper protocol and keeping yourself & loved ones safe, I know this has probably been a lot to process but I have hope that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. I find that seeing all of the news about the virus 24/7 is mentally exhausting, especially for an empath like myself. If you need to cut off the news and log out of social media for a day or so DO THAT….your mental will thank you. In the meantime we all need to focus on staying safe and not going crazy from being on lockdown, if I see another challenge or Tik tok video on Instagram I’m going to actually go nuts LOL. Stay safe & sound guys!!

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

And wash your damn hands!!

Xx, Quita

Skinny Black Girl In America

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So, let’s talk….

Happy Women’s History Month! I thought I’d start this month off in particular with a subject very near and dear to me, something I’ve been dealing with for most of my life. I’m sure it’s not hard to see that I am a petite woman, or as most would say “Skinny”. Growing up and all throughout school this was never something that caused me any trouble or was even a concern, I was a perfectly healthy child/teenager who happened to be on the “Skinny” side. It wasn’t until I was around 15 maybe 16 when I started to notice that all of my friends were growing into these bodies that had hips, breast and ass while my body on the other hand still looked the same way it did in the 9th grade. Although it still hadn’t become an issue at that point it was something I did take notice of. As time went on and I entered early adulthood that’s when the insecurities started to come into play, that’s when the insensitivity from others started to happen, that’s when I began to allow my environment to affect me.

I would hear all types of comments and rude remarks regarding my weight, things that I would unintentionally internalize. Being a smaller woman comes with it’s own set of problems BUT being a skinny black woman in the black community is a whole other fight. In a culture where big butts, breast & hips are placed on a pedestal I was trying to find where I fit in, I was trying to feel confident in my own body. I think people forget that body shaming doesn’t just mean you’re calling someone fat or overweight, body shaming is when you make a comment on someone’s weight, period. Whether it be a comment about someone being fat or skinny NEITHER IS OKAY and both can leave the same effect on someone. If it’s not, ‘Girl, do you even eat?” it’s “You’re soooooo tiny, how do you manage to stay so thin??” and while some people don’t mean much harm others are very intentional with their remarks. Rule of thumb, never comment on someone’s weight…it’s insensitive and it’s rude.

I tried EVERYTHING to gain weight and I mean everything. I watched countless Youtube videos on “How to gain weight fast” and while they did give a plethora of options none of them really worked for me. Not to mention the shit became expensive as hell, but I was so determined to gain some pounds (Ass & hips…judge ya mother) that the money didn’t even bother me. I tried it all from protein smoothies, protein shakes, increasing my caloric intake, Maca root, working out (chile I don’t know how y’all do that workout shit) and the infamous Apetamin. I would not recommend that Apetamin stuff to NO ONE, the side effects were just too much to deal with. I have seen women get great results with it but I refuse to drink that stuff again…but to each its own. I was over doing it trying to become something I simply am not and it wasn’t worth it. When it all balls down to it the most important thing you can do is love yourself no matter how big or small you are, no one is perfect and truth be told no one is ever satisfied. I know women who want to be smaller and women who want to be bigger. Women who want to add a little bit here and take a little bit away there. We’re either stuffing our faces trying to pile on calories or trying multiple diets trying to shed some pounds….there’s always something.

Love yourself just the way you’re, you’re beautiful and if you ever need a reminder I’m here to do just that! I still have my days BUT I snap out of that shit fast, I don’t dwell on it. I was made just the way I am supposed to be and so were you. I’ll leave you with this piece from 2016 I wrote on my tumblr (who else had a tumblr?) tumblr was and still is my favorite Social Media account….

It is never okay to ridicule or make insensitive comments about somebody’s body image. If I had a dollar for every time someone has made comments such as: “wow, do you eat?”, “you’re soooooo skinny”, “where are you gonna put all that food?”, “you should eat more”…..etc I’d literally have enough money to pay off my student loans. Understand that you’re never in a position to make comments on something you know nothing about. It is no different than when someone makes a fat joke and everybody laughs, the shit hurts. I have been living with myself long enough to know that I am a petite woman, I do not need you to remind me of this every chance you get. Just because somebody is different from you doesn’t make them unhealthy and more importantly it doesn’t put you in a position to judge. With age came a thicker skin when it comes to this, however I truly do hate when complete fucking strangers take it upon themselves to voice their opinions. Even after I give them the look of death they still will proceed to ask even more insulting questions. In a generation where fat ass’s, big breast and wide hips are glorified, especially in the black community, it is often frowned upon to be on the skinny side. Luckily, I could give a shit less but when you insult me oh then we will have a problem. Just like it’s not okay to say, “He/she is big as a house” it also isn’t okay to say, “He/she looks like a skeleton”. People need to mind their own business and grow the fuck up, period. Worry about your own grass and why it isn’t growing instead of worrying about why somebody look the way they do. Your rude comments could be the last straw for somebody before they snap on you or even themselves. So next time you decide to take it upon yourself to say something in reference to someone’s body weight do me a favor….don’t.

People will have opinions but you know what they say about those 😉. Don’t let anyone convince you that there is something wrong with you because there isn’t, there’s something wrong with them for believing they can tell you what to do with YOUR body! Healthy lifestyle changes are 100% okay but don’t let society convince you that there is something wrong with you, do it because you want to not because you feel like you have too.

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style…..and confidence!

Signed, A skinny black girl who eats more than an elephant :).

Xx, Quita

Discovering your Purpose

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The year is 2000 ish and I can still vividly remember waiting up until about 1:00 am to watch the runway shows on the Style Network, that was always my favorite TV station. I would study the runway, the models, their runway walk and most importantly what they were wearing. I became so intrigued with fashion and how you could tell a story through just clothing, how each garment gave a different emotion, how the clothes would speak for themselves. I always looked at fashion as a form of expression and style as a way of authenticity. I was in my last year of high school & unsure of what I wanted to do with my life but I knew Fashion/Style held a special place in my heart. Fast foreword to 35 & not much has changed….

I don’t know if it’s because we’re right in the last days of this decade or what but I’ve been dwelling on a lot of things lately; one in particular is What is my purpose? Although this can be a pretty loaded question for me it comes down to a few things…What was I placed here to do? How can I be of service to others? What makes my heart smile? My soul full? What do I actually enjoy doing? So many people go through life lost with no direction and wonder why they have no ambition….I think that has a lot to do with not walking in your purpose. When something truly interests you it brings you an abundance of joy, it will fill you up as opposed to draining every ounce of energy you’ve got. That’s what fashion does for me, it makes me happy, it allows for me to creatively express myself…it gives me a sense of fulfillment. This feeling isn’t new to me whatsoever but, lately I’ve been feeling a bit stagnant and that is a feeling I absolutely cannot stand. So it got me to thinking, Yes fashion is something I enjoy…a hobby to an extent but is it my calling? What could I do for the rest of my life and not absolutely dread after a few years?…What could get me out of bed every morning and not bitch & complain while getting dressed? What do I constantly find myself thinking about in my idle time? No surprise to me when the answer was fashion.

I think when something is really for you it never ever goes away, it’s like you can’t ignore your destiny. It may seem like it goes away for a bit but it never truly disappear, it’s always in the background just waiting for the perfect time to pop back up and remind you of what you should be doing…That’s kinda what fashion has been doing to me. I’ve been in my current field for almost 10 years now and still haven’t felt that spark that fashion gives me, that undeniable passion. That’s where a lot of people are in their professional lives, mediocre jobs that pay the bills but drain their souls. So many people are afraid to take a chance on their dreams because their dreams may seem to big or unattainable and end up miserable working 40+ hrs a week with 20 hrs of vacation time a year (that you have to ask permission to use). I CANNOT BE THAT PERSON…it literally makes me cringe just thinking about it. Do you know how much energy it takes to get up and force yourself to go to a job that you barely even like every morning? Whew chile! The ghetto.

The dream is the easy part, the hustle is where you separate the dreamers from the doers. Even while I’m dreaming I’m thinking about fashion 🤦🏽‍♀️…I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been laying in bed at night wide awake curating outfits in my head, LOL! Like it has literally kept me up at night, on some occasions I’ve even gotten out of bed and tried the outfits on….it’s really that bad, LOL. Whenever I’m invited out my first thought is always, What am I going to wear?🤔 an invitation anywhere is just an excuse to dress up in my opinion.

For this look I chose to wear this suit I purchased from Boohoo.com, I have been absolutely obsessed with suits this Fall. I love to see all the street style stars styling theirs in a variety of a ways with sneakers, heels, boots, combat boots, sandals and of course pumps. I chose to pair my suit with a pair of snake print booties from Shein.com to give it a mixed prints type of look, I think it looked pretty cool up against the checkered print in the pants. The pants are ankle length making them the perfect length to show off the booties. I have been on the hunt for a grayish/white fedora and found this gem on SoleSociety.com….in person its more gray than white but what I love most about this fedora is the sturdy brim, LOL. Yes I am kinda like a fedora connoisseur being that they are my favorite hats ever and I’ve collected my fair share over the years. Nothing grinds my gears more than a fedora with a floppy brim, if I wanted a hat with a floppy brim I would’ve purchased a floppy hat..LOL. My favorite part about this outfit is definitely the blazer! It’s double breasted, slightly over sized with small shoulder pads to give it a little structure and a small buckle to give it some edge. The fit is perfect for me, I am already thinking of re wearing it as a dress with some thigh high boots…not now though, it officially hit Winter a few days ago and I WILL NOT BE CAUGHT IN THE COLD..LOL. On this day it was a solid 30 degrees outside hence the teddy coat being in most of my pics, SMH. That was not apart of the plan but the weather had other plans and well I’m not freezing for no one, not even the perfect shot.

I think we’re all born with gifts/talent(s) that to often get ignored or brushed under the rug, I think it’s so unfortunate when this happens. I don’t want to be that old lady who at 70+ have regrets on not going after that dream. My biggest fear is having that, I wonder what would’ve happen if I just tried? thought wrecking havoc on my brain. Nothing worse then lingering “What if’s” floating around your mind. I don’t know what my future holds but I do know it doesn’t include me just sitting on my dreams. It doesn’t include me wasting my gift, that would be a disgrace. It’s our own job to hone in on those talents and put them to good use, It’s not work if you enjoy doing it. We’ve got a few days left in this decade, figure out what you love and get to it. Your dreams are waiting…

Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

Boyfriend jeans styled 3 different ways…

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If I’m being completely honest jeans are probably my least favorite thing to wear…I know, I know, it’s weird right? But, it’s so true. I don’t know what it is but they’re so uncomfortable to me, it could be because I have trouble finding the perfect fit but they’re normally the last article of clothing I reach for when planning an outfit. If I must wear them I almost always choose a more relaxed boyfriend style, they’re my absolute favorite type of jeans. I currently own about 8 pairs and counting, although I’m sure that number will increase pretty soon lol. I prefer mine to be a little worn in and distressed so I usually always wear my oldest pair. I’ve owned this pair for almost a year now and have worn them multiple times in multiple ways. Of all the ones I own these are probably my favorite, I purchased them from H&M which is normally where I get most of my jeans. Comfortable is an understatement when it come to these, they get better and better with every wash. For this look I chose to pair them with a band tee and a blazer for that edgy cool girl look. Topped it off with a fedora and some Chucks and the look was basically complete. Another thing I’m completely in love with is Band Tee’s…I’ve lost count of how many I have at this point. If I could I’d wear a band tee and baggy jeans damn near everyday, it’s definitely my kind of vibe.First Look: Edgy

With the temperatures finally starting to cool down we’re right in the last days of summer, as a result your wardrobe definitely starts to change. I like to refer to this time of year as the “transition phase” simply because while Fall is near the temperatures doesn’t always reflect that right away. Sometimes it could possibly still be pretty warm/hot well into September, naming Fall the season for layering. I’ll admit I’ve never been the best at layering but I’ve always loved a good layered look. I remember back when the Olsen twins were big in the early 2000’s and they had that whole homeless lady chic look down to a science! I loveeedddddd it, I was walking around with a whole bunch of shit on trying my best to mimic an Olsen twin lol!

Although there’s not a whole lot of layering going on in this look it still gave me that boho chic kinda vibe, I think it has a lot to do with the long flowy top paired with the baggy distressed denim. That’s what I liked most about this outfit, the juxtaposition of the soft dainty top with the oversized ripped up bottoms. I threw on my jean jacket to kinda give it a little more dimension and viola! I had to refrain from adding more layers to this look because it was so hot and humid on this day, in the back of my mind I was thinking channel your inner Mary-Kate Olsen but in reality I was hot as fuck, lol.Second look: Chic

Now I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t throw a little sexy/glam in the mix…one thing I can say about my personal style is that it cannot be easily defined. I’m a moody person by nature (blame my moon/sun sign: Cancer) but my moodiness definitely plays a role when it comes to my sense of style. Depending on how I’m feeling that day you could very well see me out in sweats and a baseball hat OR 6 inch heels, faux fur, large dark sunnies and some sort of dress…it really all just depends on how I’m feeling that day or who I’m going to see…Lol. On this particular day I was feeling a little spicy, lol.

Although I prefer my blazers to be bigger than my actual size for these jeans the fit of this blazer worked, to balance out the bagginess on the bottom I kept it fitted on top. Disclaimer: I actually hate this blazer I feel so stuffed whenever I wear it lol I can barely fit anything underneath it (including my stomach after I’ve ate 😂) and still have room to button it up…AND it only has one button which drives me insane. I’ve been on the hunt for the perfect fit black blazer for YEARS now and have yet to come across one I’m completely in love with. I purchased this one last year from H&M and will probably give it away smh I just can’t. I did order yet another one recently and fingers crossed it will fit how I want it to. That’s always been the downside to online shopping; you can’t try shit on.I’ve been crushing on the Celine pillow bag this season but definitely not the price tag, so in true Marquita style I found a more affordable version. I found this one on Forever 21 and didn’t hesitate on buying it, I can’t remember what I paid exactly but I do remember it was on sale and under $20…stick with me guys I can make your buck stretch! These mules will be going with me right into Fall, they’re currently my favorite sandal of the moment. I’ve never been that girl who wore my toes out during the Fall but I’m feeling a little frisky this season…lol. Obviously I won’t be wearing sandals in the snow but in the early Fall I’m thinking, why not? I love how the material is some type of stretchy fabric making them easier to walk in. Look #3: Sexy

Making the most out of the pieces you already own is major key, I’m always so tempted to buy new stuff every year but that’s not always a boss move. Besides if you have true style you can totally revamp your wardrobe with a few small adjustments. Make your wardrobe work for you, not the other way around. So, which look was your fave?? I like them all but the first one is definitely my favorite, what can I say….I’m really just a cool edgy girl at heart lol. Let me know down below which one you’d recreate and if you don’t already you should get yourself a pair(s) of boyfriend jeans ASAP, you definitely won’t regret it! Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

Casually Chic Summer

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From the moment I saw Rihanna wearing a slip dress out in public, with a wine glass in her hand, I was immediately intrigued…with her of course, but more so with the idea of wearing a nightie out in public. I couldn’t decide if I was more impressed with what she was wearing or the fact that she had a wine glass in her hand? Lol, nonetheless I’ve been obsessed with slip dresses ever since, I’ve been obsessed with Rihanna ever since ‘Pon’ de Replay’…where are all my day one Rihanna fans at? I’ve seen this trend all over social media and even dabbled in it a little myself. Have you read my, ’10 things I wish I knew before turning 30′ post? I wore one in that post too.What I love most about them is the versatility of them, they can be worn for so many different occasions. Am I going to bed? Out to dinner? Going to see bae? Is there even a bae?…Lol. Am I running errands? Going to Target? Attending an outdoor event? The possibilities are endless! The versatility gives you so many different styling options as well, they’re the type of garment that could easily be dressed up or down. This time around I chose to style it down and when I say this has to be one of my favorite looks of the summer, I mean just that. I am absolutely all about comfy, chic and practical styling. There was a time where you wouldn’t catch me dead in a pair of sneakers, now I am looking into purchasing a couple pairs. I’ve never been into flats let alone sneakers but there are a few I’ve been eyeing for awhile now.I purchased this pair from Go Jane and was completely in love with them when I received them. I hesitated while purchasing them simply because they weren’t a “name brand” but quickly stopped myself dead in my tracks…style has NEVER been about labels so what was I actually tripping about? After trying them on I immediately cursed myself for waiting so long to wear sneakers lol my feet gave me an instant sigh of relief. Since then I’ve worn them at least 4 times, we’re practically inseparable at this point lol. I knew that the next time I wore a slip dress I wanted to wear it with sneakers. I’ve been so into wearing dresses/skirts with sneakers lately…it’s like the perfect mix of edgy, chic & tomboy all wrapped up into one look. I’m so here for it!If you’re new here you may not know about my hat obsession but hats are hands down my absolute favorite accessory, fedoras in particular. During the Fall and Winter you really can’t keep me out of them, they’re a staple piece in my wardrobe. I’ve been on the hunt for a good quality fedora for years now, most of mine have been from Forever 21, H&M & lately Target. I want to invest in a good quality one this Fall, I wear mine a lot so I need one that can handle a lot of wear and last for years. I’ve been searching for a white, straw fedora with a wide black band for for the longest now, I love a good white hat during the summer months. I came across this one on Forever 21 on the humble and it definitely didn’t disappoint, it gives you that I’m on vacation in Cuba serving looks vibe.I don’t normally pay to much attention to trends but this one has probably been my favorite one this summer. I remember my grandmother would make me wear slips under my skirts/dresses as a child and I always hated it, now if I could I would wear one everyday lol. They’re just so effortlessly chic. Summer 2019 is winding down and I for one am so happy to see it go, it’s been a pretty bland summer for me. The most wonderful time of the year is quickly approaching guys and I couldn’t be more excited lol. Fall is creeping in and I’m sure all my fashion lovers can understand my level of excitement. Although my wardrobe is still being curated I’m happy to welcome the cooler temperatures. While shooting these photos I literally felt like my back was on fire 😩, it had to be 90+ degrees outside and the humidity was out of this world! It got to the point where I changed my location to a spot with more shade because I simply could not.

Side note: I took these photos by myself with people watching lol and I didn’t give a single fuck. Lol, if you know me you know how I feel about this, but I pushed right on through. Who else is counting down until Fall?? I know I am! Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

Sunnies: Shein

Dress: Boohoo

Shoes: Go Jane

Bag & Hat: Forever 21

So you wanna be a blogger?…

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First let me start off by saying Happy New Year! I know I’m super late but hey, better late than never right? When I first started this blog I had all these ideas and a vision of how I wanted this blog to be, what I wanted to say & how I would say it. My creative juices were flowing, my wardrobe was popping and everything just seemed like it would fall perfectly into place. I planned my “blog outfits” in advance and even attempted to schedule days were I would shoot photos for the blog. All this was good up until it was actually time to shoot the photos and there was no one around to do that. I let weeks go by with no new content simply because I didn’t think me taking the photos myself would be good enough. How would I get my angles right? How would I know if I was standing in the right light? Who’s gonna tell me if my hair is out of place or if my hands look awkward? I literally had 100 excuses and kinda lost my drive to do it. Aside from that, the weather in Baltimore has been brutally cold and I am not a fan of Winter! I absolutely hate being cold, just the thought of standing outside in the cold trying to pose for a picture gives me frost bite. My plan was to take as many photos as possible in early/mid Fall so that I had enough content to put out way into Winter…well, Fall came & went and that didn’t happen.

I was over it (kinda), about 2 whole months into the blogging game and I was already ready to throw in the towel *crying laughing emoji*. Up until this point I had unsuccessfully tried my hand at being my own photographer a few times and while some of the photos came out exceptionally good most of them were just “Meh” and if you know anything about me “Meh” is just not good enough. I don’t know if I would call myself a perfectionist but I will say that i’m not to far from it. So as any seasoned procrastinator would do, I kept pushing it off until next week, until next week became next month and my poor little blog was collecting dust. If it wasn’t the weather, it was me not having anyone around to help or just life itself….my mood was all over the place and my blog suffered.

I kept giving myself the pep talk like, “Girl you got this, take that tripod & remote & go take those photos…how hard can it be?” To be completely honest it all sounded good but it fell on deaf ears, I just wasn’t feeling it. I would muster up the energy and go outside, pick a location and be ready to go until someone walks or drives by and give me the, what the heck is she over there doing look?. I’d immediately cringe and try to look normal *crying laughing emoji*or literary run for cover…a hot damn mess. I wouldn’t call myself shy but I am extremely introverted and that in itself can be a little challenging trying to create in front of others. So my next grand idea was to ask my friends to take them whenever we went out and yeah, that didn’t happen neither. I never wanted to be that annoying friend who’s always asking for their picture to be taken like, “Hey I know we’re out having an amazing time but I need you to get some photos of my outfit for my blog. I need you to get my good angles, get on the ground, catch my off guards, stand in the street, get in a tree and position me so that I can catch the good lighting”. Lmao, I would literally have no friends! Then there’s those times when I’m out with a male friend or even on a date and have on something totally bloggable (yes I made that word up) and oh please don’t let me ask one of them to take my photo lol my whole head probably would be cut off…men just don’t be into these types of things. *Sigh* only if I had a bae-tographer oh how easy this would be…I would train him to take the most phenomenal shots! *crying laughing emoji*

On this particular day old man Winter must have taken the day off because we reached a very comfortable 60 degrees, I was actually hot taking these photos. Blazers are definitely a Fall/Winter staple to have in any wardrobe (men & women). They’re versatile, easy to style, comfortable and go with just about everything. I prefer mine a little over-sized so that I can fit chunky sweaters underneath and still have room to move. This time I chose a graphic tee I grabbed from Shein along with these faux leather pants and paper boy hat. I promise I will do more looks without hats but I’m just seriously obsessed with them. The star of the show (the blazer) is from H&M and I am completely happy with this purchase! I’ve worn it a few times and it keeps getting better, I even paid full price for this so you know I really wanted it lol.

I guess we all have those days (well for me weeks) where we’re just not feeling it, and by it I mean all of it. Where no matter what we do or say nothing can move us out of our funk. I could literally write a whole blog post about this topic alone but I won’t do that here. I’ve always depended on fashion and writing as my creative outlet to do just that, get it out. It’s always been my go to to boost my spirits and increase my energy. Although i’m fairly new to this whole blogging thing I’ve already felt the the pressure that undoubtedly comes with it. I’ve been feeling like I need to stay consistent, grow a larger audience (on both here and social media) and stay current with everything fashion. While non of these things are impossible and or out of reach, I think the bulk of it comes from feeling the need to keep up; & that is the problem. It’s not a race and the best place to be is in your own lane, doing your own thing. Nothing authentic ever comes from following in the footsteps of others; its great to be inspired but its wack to just copy. What may work for other bloggers may not work for you and that is 100% okay! It’s gonna take more than some frigid temperatures and having no “bae-tographer” on hand to throw me out the game lol I love it to much. So, if you see me out fumbling with my tripod trying to get the shot just mind your damn business, or better yet help a real one out! *crying laughing emoji* I hope your new year has started off to a great start and continue to prosper as i’m sure mine will. Thanks for stopping by and as always whatever you do, do it with style.

Xx, Quita

Dating in your 30’s…

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So before I start let’s just clear the air, yes I am well into my 30’s & yes I am aware of how young I look lol. I definitely needed to make this disclaimer before I went any further because people will literally drop their jaws when I tell them how old I am. Purchasing an alcoholic beverage has got to be the most uncomfortable thing for me. I’ve had people swear me to death that my drivers license is fake *side eye emoji*. Like look buddy if I wanted to lie about my age i’d be 25 FOREVER, old enough to know better but still young enough to screw up lol. *Sigh* gone are the days of my 20’s where the only thing I was concerned about was gas money & which dress i’d be wearing to the club, Ha!

Now i’m worried about my bills being paid on time, working 13+ hrs a day, why my knees are starting to crack, having kids someday & dying alone surrounded by clothes, bags, shoes & a cat that probably hates me. Yes this is a real fear of mine & no I don’t need your judgement lol. Dating in your 30’s is like an extreme sport, exhausting, confusing, game plan required & all around work. By the time you’ve reached your 30’s most people are either getting married & starting families or trying to get married & start a family. With the exception of the ones who’d rather not be bothered with any of that, there’s really no in between. I myself would love to think that marriage & babies are in my near future, however to meet my future husband I have to actually date & that my friends is the hard part *crying laughing emoji*. While my experiences haven’t been compete nightmares some of them have came pretty damn close, I wouldn’t say i’m traumatized but I will say i’m just tired. 

 I’ve dealt with them all; from the guy who wants you to act like a girlfriend but still considers you to be the “homey”, the guy who claims to still be traumatized from his ex who broke his heart in the 7th grade *side eye emoji”, the guy who meets you on a Monday and wants to marry you the following week, the guy who NEVER takes you out & considers “Netflix & Chill” a suitable date, to the oh so infamous “friends with benefits”. I Could easily go on forever but I’ll spare you this time. Dating for me has always been tricky only because I’ve never been the type to date around, I find a guy I like & that’s who gets my attention. In other words I put all my eggs in one basket *no pun intended* lol. Some may argue that this isn’t always the best method (I won’t argue that) but for me it’s always been my method. Has it worked, obviously not but in my defense I have opened up to dating different types of guys. I used to really stick to one type of man tall, dark & handsome but now i’ll take them under 6ft but definitely over 5ft 8in lol. 

Getting dressed for a date is definitely one of the best parts for me, I absolutely love any reason to dress up. I remember one date I went on the guy showed up in basketball shorts and a t shirt, when I got into the car I asked him did I misunderstand him when he said that we would be going to dinner. He told me that I had heard him correctly & we definitely went to a semi dressy restaurant, I cringed the entire time. Here I am looking like I was about to go to a really nice restaurant meanwhile he looked like he was ready to go play basketball *crying laughing emoji*. This particular day I went to brunch with my best friend (who always dresses appropriately) and I got so many compliments on this outfit. Faux leather has been a fall staple for the past few years & hounds tooth is one of my favorite fall prints. This yellow fringe cardigan really stole the show, as it is definitely a statement piece. I purchased it, the bodysuit & the beret from Shein another online site that has decent quality items for very reasonable prices. I had been searching high & low for this style of bootie & finally came across a pair on Shoe Dazzle, the fit is so good and they’re super easy to walk in. The faux leather pants are from H&M and I plan on wearing them 100 more times lol.

Being surrounded by people getting married everyday in your 30’s could become a little overwhelming, however you absolutely shouldn’t get discouraged. I won’t lie, I’ve had my why not me moments but I quickly let them go…don’t ever settle into any negative thoughts. Your thoughts control you but the good news is you have total control over your thoughts. Dating should be fun & informative, the more you date the more you learn. Learn what you like, what you don’t like & even qualities about yourself that could use some tweaking. None of us have this all figured out trust me, you just gotta be willing to put yourself out there & see what works for you. Who knows maybe you’ll meet your future husband in the grocery store next week lol you just never know. Optimism is key! If you do happen to meet him though see if he has a brother…asking for a friend *crying laughing emoji*. Thanks for stopping by and as always no matter what you do, do it with style.

Xx, Quita