Creating your own lane


When I finally decided to start my blog I brainstormed for awhile all the things I wanted to incorporate into it to make it true to me. What parts of myself should I include to differentiate this blog from all the others? This, for awhile, had me stumped…not because I didn’t know what I wanted to say but I didn’t know how much to share. We’re all multifaceted people with so many different sides and perspectives…it finally hit me that the secret ingredient was me. Not a single soul can do me better than I can and the same goes for everyone else. I think we get so caught up with how will we stand out that we forget that being yourself is simply enough, authenticity is always in style. I’m not a flower girl, at all, but sunflowers have held a special place in my heart for some time now. There’s something so bright and cheerful about having them around. Since I’m always struggling with hand placement during my shoots…I decided to add them to these photos for aesthetic purposes and for something to do with my hands lol. One thing I was 100% certain of was that I didn’t want this to just be a blog where I post pretty outfit photos and that’s it. I wanted to create a space where I could be myself freely, without limitations and judgement. I know there will be some people who judge regardless, and that’s not my problem, but I didn’t want to limit myself because of that. Yes, this is primarily a fashion blog but it’s important to me to still be able to have real conversations while connecting with my readers. I wanted to be able to write and be relatable all while looking fly.

Speaking of real lets talk about these little Debbie back rolls 🤦🏽‍♀️idk if it was the top or the way I was positioned but yeah… there they’re. I don’t know how to edit out back rolls so y’all gonna get them today lol. Real ass bish give a fuck about a back roll ( In my City Girls voice)

Lately I’ve become a big fan of A-Line skirts, with them being so comfortable and versatile there’s not much to dislike. The length has got to be my favorite thing about them, they’re not to long or short making them the perfect all occasions skirt. Me standing at 5 2′ definitely can appreciate a skirt that compliments my height. Long skirts can be such a hassle when they’re constantly dragging on the ground while short skirts are altogether a headache…both styles are cute but for a more relaxed fit I go with the A-Line style. This skirt in particular is so comfy and chic, the material is so lightweight making it the perfect skirt for the summer heat. I purchased both the skirt and bodysuit from Forever 21, prior to this I hadn’t shopped there in nearly a year. For me Forever 21 is either hit or miss, this time around definitely a hit but I’ve had enough misses to last a while lol. Style Tip: Do not buy their jeans, ever….Thank me later 😉. Forever 21 is one of those quick fashion places but good quality items are sometimes hard to come by. The bodysuit is super comfy and the material is a dream, I already want to rewear it again with some type of denim. It’s a little revealing while exposing lots of side boob but side boob ain’t never hurt nobody! That is if you’re apart of the B-cup crew lol otherwise I’d advise against it.

Being a creative can sometimes be mentally exhausting, there’s always an idea for something constantly running through my mind. Always trying to come up with new ways to create content while staying true to myself. It’s gotten to the point where sometimes I feel like I may go crazy if I don’t get these ideas out, even if it’s just jotting it down on a piece of paper so I don’t forget. Creative tip: When something comes to mind write it down as soon as you can, I cannot tell you how many times I’ve come up with ideas and totally forgot them by the time I thought about it later. I hate that! My notes in my phone are filled with ideas, I can always refer back to them when I’m in a creative block. In this creative field I think it’s so important to remember why you started and remain grounded, everyday won’t be a good one. Some days you’ll get a lot of views some days you’ll get two, it’s just the way things are. You’ll come to a couple bumps in the road but nothing you can’t get over. The good part about staying in your lane is there’s no traffic, so you can move at your own pace; stay consistent but don’t rush. You don’t have to worry about keeping up with the speed limit because there is none, you determine how slow or fast you’ll go. I’ve found quality over quantity to be the best strategy when it comes to blogging. This week I posted two posts, it maybe awhile before that happens again lol but my point is this is my space, my pace. Don’t let the internet rush you, there’s nothing worse then promoting crappy content just to keep up with the Jonses. I know I haven’t been doing this long but I do appreciate the ones who do read it and even message me complimenting me, y’all the shit! Some people will support you others will pretend they don’t see you, either way keep doing your thing. Hard work and consistency always pays off in the end, it’s your lane, let them catch up eventually. Thanks for stopping by and remember, whatever you do, always do it with style.

Xx, Quita

What 30+ days of no social media has taught me


Over recent years I’ve witnessed social media become an overnight phenomenon (Instagram in particular)…I still remember when I first made my Instagram page, back when I was Msblondie84 🤦🏽‍♀️ lol. I had been hearing about the ever so growing app from my peers but didn’t really start my page until Instagram was about two years old, since then I’ve had my page consistently with no breaks. Just back to back years of uploading, scrolling, watching 👀, editing and tagging my friends in meme’s lol. This of course was when Instagram was a bit simpler…way before the weird algorithm, Instastories, tags, features and thousands & thousands of overused hashtags. Instagram is by far my favorite and only social media account, however, it has become so over saturated in recent years it was starting to drain me. I knew that break I had been avoiding for months was definitely about to happen. I had grown tired of looking at fake perfection, people lying all day long, drama/gossip and some people in particular.

I was over it, temporarily, I needed to detach and recharge. I knew that I didn’t want to get rid of my page completely so I opted for the “disable” option, where my page disappeared to everyone until I logged back in and reactivated it. My initial time frame was 30 days but after about two weeks I knew 30 days wasn’t enough, 30 days easily turned into almost two months. For someone like me who checks Instagram religiously that was a long time, it may not sound like it to some but for me it was. I think it’s important to use social media in good and inspiring ways as opposed to letting it use you and cloud your vision. It’s so easy to get caught up in the hype of what other people are doing and other peoples lives, inevitably you start to lose focus on your own life and in worse cases start to compare yourself ( and life) to others. In one way or another I feel like we’ve all been there and it is a very unhealthy place to be. You have no idea what goes on behind a perfectly edited photo and an asethically pleasing Instagram feed. Nor do you know what people have done to get the lifestyle they have and what they’re doing to maintain it. None of this goes into account when you’re scrolling through Instagram, you see someone’s “perfect” life and immediately start to compare. Believe me when I tell you, we ALL have shitty days and most people aren’t sharing that part of their lives.

By no means am I against social media whatsoever, however, I do believe you should be mindful of your usage. There’s a feature on Instagram that monitors your usage/time, I was shook when I saw how much time I was actually spending on there. During my break I was able to finish two books I had been trying to finish for weeks. I’m a big reader and read often but I had been neglecting it and reaching for my phone instead of my books. Awful, I know… but it felt good to clear my mind and fill it with useful information instead of social media. I also was on time for once in my life lol instead of recording myself in the mirror making Instastories when i say I’m ”ready” I was actually ready lol. (I know my ladies can relate) I even got some sleep at night, instead of scrolling for an 1 hr or so before bed I actually went to bed. Most importantly I was able to enjoy myself and live in the moment, there’s so many times where we’re out and not actually enjoying the moment. Instead, we’re consumed with our phones and taking pictures and videos of everything. I actually went out and didn’t take boomerangs of me and my friends making a toast with our glasses lmao ladies I know y’all do this too!

On a lighter note I did miss uploading photos to promote my blog, I think one of the biggest advantages of Instagram is using it as a promotional tool. We’re in the era of entrepreneurs, bloggers and business boomers…using Instagram is like free advertising. Another bonus to Instagram is networking, you’re able to make a lot of connections without actually leaving your couch lol (a super plus for me). Believe it or not some people have made genuine friendships through Instagram. There’s so many advantages to social media when used correctly and efficiently. While I was on “break” I was still serving looks, that will never stop lol. For this look I chose this Hounds tooth dress I purchased from Boohoo back in the Fall, if you know me you know my obsession with Hounds tooth. Strappy heels are so chic and sexy bringing that extra dose of sass to any outfit. Mine are from Boohoo as well, although not the most comfortable shoe to walk in they’re totally worth it. Just be sure to wear them when you’re certain you’ll be sitting down for the majority of the night …Thank me later lol.

Have any of you ever taken a break from social media? If so, for how long? If you haven’t I encourage you to give it a try, it’s so beneficial. I promise you’ll feel the positive effects of disconnecting almost immediately. I’m already looking forward to my next break! Btw, are you following me on Instagram 👀, if not you definitely should! @Storiesxstyle…Thanks for stopping by and as always, whatever you do, do it with style.

Xx, Quita